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Of course my son wants to be a soldier

When a three-year-old's fantasy of being a soldier is also a look into his future -- and mom is OK with that

I took my kids to Jerusalem.

The heat was cranked up to a slow and steady broil, and through sinuous alleys we wended our way past fluttering scarfs and fragrant spices, past shelves lined with kipot and kefiyehs, past mirrors reflecting a rainbow of fabric and skin, straight to the heart of the Western Wall.

We look like every shop keeper’s wet dream: A trifecta of tourists, the blonde mother and her two blonde children, gobsmacked and ready to pay 50 shekels for a stuffed camel with an “I <3 Israel” saddle (and a label that reads “Made in Taiwan.)

A simple “Lo,” isn’t enough – you gotta break down it down with some serious Israeli attitude. Think Marisa Tomei from My Cousin Vinnie meets Menachem Begin and you get the idea. You have to wave your hands a little, and pop your chin, and for GODS SAKE DON’T SMILE, because that’ll give you away.

It also helps if your kids speak Hebrew. (OK, so they’re begging you to buy the stupid camel while the shop keeper leers with a knowing gleam in his eye, but the fact that they’re whining about it in one of the two official languages of the shuk is good enough to drop the price faster than Miley Cyrus mid twerk.)

(Oh yes, I did.) 

My kids are Israeli – no doubt. They roll their ‘reshes‘ and gut their ‘ayins,’ they bronze beneath the sun. They love jahnun and falafel and sahlab and schnitzel. They’re impatient and loud and laugh with all their teeth showing.

(And they got their camels – down from 50 shekels to 30 for both. Such a bargain.)

But the highlight of my son’s day happened when we left the shuk and went to catch a taxi just outside of Jaffa Gate.

“Soldiers!” My son crowed. “Soldiers!”

My son is at that age when he notices the men and women in their olive uniforms, with the colored berets on their shoulders, and the stripes and the pins and the insignias…

And the guns strapped to their backs.

And there were hundreds of them  standing around the entrance to the Old City — they were so young, these “men and women” with guns on their backs and pimples on their cheeks.

“When do I get to be a soldier?” he asked me, not for the first time.

“Oy,” the American in me sighs. 

But the Israeli (as usual) is louder than my quiet past life:

Of course my son wants to be a soldier.

“I hope you leave Israel before he gets drafted,” someone from the US with loving intentions  told me recently on the phone. 

It’s funny, because I used to want the same thing: “We can to move to Israel, but we’re getting the hell out of dodge before our son reaches draft age,” I told my then-husband in between cramming my Old Navy tank tops and hooker boots into the last suitcase we were packing.

I don’t feel that way anymore, and I’ll tell you something that I never thought I’d feel: After my son and daughter have reaped the benefits of living in a country where they will never have to worry about tucking their Jewish Star necklaces under their shirts, where the rhythms of their year are measured with Jewish festivals, and illuminated by Sabbath candles, it would feel like sneaking out the back door to leave before draft age.

But yes, like every Israeli mother I know, there is a hitch in my breath as each birthday passes and we close in on chai: That 18th year. Do I hope that they’ll get a desk job in an intelligence unit? Hell yeah. Do I pray that they’ll perform in the army entertainment troupe? Why do you think I’m teaching my son how to do jazz hands. Will I support them if they make the conscious choice NOT to serve in the army? Absolutely. 

And above all, do I pray that we won’t NEED an army by the time my kids are army age?  Duh.

But chances are it won’t go down that way. 

And in 15 years, we’ll be back in Jerusalem again at the Western Wall, and I’ll be standing with the other mothers holding my breath and trembling in fear and in awe at the sight of my little boy — and my little girl — in uniform. The pimply kids with guns on their backs are the modern day heroes of Israel.

One day, my son — AND my daughter — will be safeguarding this country.  One day, the onus will be on them to keep us safe and treat others with dignity and compassion while doing such a hard, hard job.

And I wonder if they’ll still be sleeping with the stuffed camels we bought at the shuk that day.



About the Author
Sarah Tuttle-Singer, author of Jerusalem Drawn and Quartered and the New Media Editor at Times of Israel, She was raised in Venice Beach, California on Yiddish lullabies and Civil Rights anthems. She now lives in Jerusalem with her 3 kids where she climbs roofs, explores cisterns, opens secret doors and talks to strangers, and writes stories about people. Sarah also speaks before audiences left, right, and center through the Jewish Speakers Bureau, asking them to wrestle with important questions while celebrating their willingness to do so. She also loves whisky and tacos and chocolate chip cookies and old maps and foreign coins and discovering new ideas from different perspectives. Sarah is a work in progress.
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