Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
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Don’t conflate the tip of the iceberg with the iceberg

Certainly, the Holocaust is the worst of Antisemitism. But it’s not the whole picture. Jew-hatred would not be a problem anymore if it only consisted of the Nazi mass-murder. Unfortunately, the Oldest Hatred is ongoing. And it mainly shows in Jews not feeling safe in the street. And antisemites can’t excuse themselves by saying: That I make them feel bad is not the Holocaust, so it’s nothing.

Correspondingly, murder is the worst of sexism and racism. But you can’t say: As long as no one gets murdered, all is fine. And when people get murdered because of hatred for women or of non-Caucasians, that is the only problem that needs to be taken care of. Rather, women and non-Whites feeling degraded all around the clock is the main problem.

Murder of a female by her spouse, ex, brother, or father is the worst of sexism. Trying only to prevent such homicides is not the way. First of all, we need to uproot the causes, not just the outcomes. And secondly, what causes femicide makes women unsafe and unfree all day long, often even in their homes and with close relatives. The problem includes the wicked assumptions that women are here just to obey, serve, and please men, that they should not have their own opinions and freedom to choose, etc.

On top of this: not all men would murder women. There must be policy to prevent women to get close to violent men or to rescue them from such violent relationships. Education at school already how to spot a power-hungry flattering charming fake. To outnumber bullies. That men and women are equal besides that a proud man comes to protect, not attack, the socially vulnerable. Relationship counselors must know that when there’s violence at home, save the victim before trying to help the liaison.

Where needed, it must be taught that murder damages the name of a family more than any other behavior. That you ‘can’t protect the name of the family’ by killing those you find improper.

So, as important as it is to save the lives of all oppressed who are in acute mortal danger, the most important thing is to free all of society and all people from any notion that some people are second-class, unequal, and unworthy. And to eradicate any idea that it would be (partly) acceptable that whole sections of a population live in fear and unfreedom, and that others get to dominate, bully, and subjugate others.

Not only the tip of the iceberg’s a problem. We must melt the whole thing.

About the Author
MM is a prolific and creative writer and thinker, a daily blog contributor to the TOI. He is a fetal survivor of the pharmaceutical industry (, born in 1953 to two Dutch survivors who met in the largest concentration camp in the Netherlands, Westerbork, and holds a BA in medicine (University of Amsterdam). He taught Re-evaluation Co-counseling, became a social activist, became religious, made Aliyah, and raised three wonderful kids. He wrote an unpublished tome about Jewish Free Will. He's a strict vegan since 2008. He's an Orthodox Jew but not a rabbi. * His most influential teachers (chronologically) are: his parents, Nico (natan) van Zuiden and Betty (beisye) Nieweg, Wim Kan, Mozart, Harvey Jackins, Marshal Rosenberg, Reb Shlomo Carlebach, and, lehavdil bein chayim lechayim: Rabbi Dr. Natan Lopes Cardozo, Rav Zev Leff, and Rav Meir Lubin. * Previously, for decades, he was known to the Jerusalem Post readers as a frequent letter writer. For a couple of years, he wrote hasbara for the Dutch public. His fields of attention now are varied: Psychology (including Sexuality and Abuse), Medicine (including physical immortality), Science (statistics), Politics (Israel, the US and the Netherlands, Activism - more than leftwing or rightwing, he hopes to highlight Truth), Oppression and Liberation (intersectionally, for young people, the elderly, non-Whites, women, workers, Jews, LGBTQIA, foreigners and anyone else who's dehumanized or exploited), Integrity, Philosophy, Jews (Judaism, Zionism, Holocaust and Jewish Liberation), Ecology and Veganism. Sometimes he's misunderstood because he has such a wide vision that never fits any specialist's box. But that's exactly what many love about him. Many of his posts relate to affairs from the news or the Torah Portion of the Week or are new insights that suddenly befell him. * He hopes that his words will inspire and inform, reassure the doubters but make the self-assured doubt more. He strives to bring a fresh perspective rather than bore you with the obvious. He doesn't expect his readers to agree. Rather, original minds must be disputed. In short, his main political positions are: anti-Trumpism, for Zionism, Intersectionality, non-violence, democracy, anti the fake peace process, for original-Orthodoxy, Science, Free Will, anti blaming-the-victim and for down-to-earth optimism. Read his blog how he attempts to bridge any discrepancies. He admits sometimes exaggerating to make a point, which could have him come across as nasty, while in actuality, he's quite a lovely person to interact with. He holds - how Dutch - that a strong opinion doesn't imply intolerance of other views. * His writing has been made possible by an allowance for second-generation Holocaust survivors from the Netherlands. It has been his dream since he was 38 to try to make a difference by teaching through writing. He had three times 9-out-of-10 for Dutch at his high school finals but is spending his days communicating in English and Hebrew - how ironic. G-d must have a fine sense of humor. In case you wonder - yes, he is a bit dyslectic. November 13, 2018, he published his 500th blog post with the ToI. If you're a native English speaker and wonder why you should read from people whose English is only their second language, consider the advantage of having a peek outside of your cultural bubble. * To find his earlier blog posts on a certain subject XXX, among his over 1200 ones, go to the right-top corner of the Times of Israel page, click on the search icon and search "zuiden, XXX". His second daily active less tame blog, to which one may subscribe, one may find here: or by clicking on the globe icon next to his picture on top. * To send any personal reaction to him, scroll to the top of the blog post and click Contact Me.
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