Before my now relationship with my fiancé, I must honestly say, relationships are not something I was really interested in. I always thought “how can one person keep you happy, entertained and satisfied?” I would wonder how couples always had something to talk about. How could you go on holiday with this person and still have something to talk about? Does life not get boring with the same person? Well, I am sure that there are times where it does get boring but when you are in love and do find that person you want to spend your life with, there will always be a way to come back to that romance that was once there.
Think about it, if you are with someone for let’s say 10 years, the odds of every day being a solid 10/10 is very rare. My parents have been together nearly 40 years and even though they want to kill each other a lot of the time, they find ways to keep the passion alive. Keeping the flame alight is not something that will come naturally to all of us. So, I have decided to come up with a list of things that might help to keep the original love there.
- Make time for date night/day
I am sure this is something you have heard lots of people say but it is not something you do. I genuinely think that it does not matter how long you have been together – keep the dates going! Randomly book a cocktail bar or dinner or boat trip just so the two of you can get out of the house, away from the kids, or away from everyday life.
- Leave cute notes for each other
This one is totally me and one I love doing. I have been leaving notes for my fiancé since we started dating. Saying that, I left him two this morning!! I think it is so nice because it shows you care and even though it is something so small, it is so thoughtful and will for sure make your partner smile.
- Make your partner laugh
Laughter is one of the most important things in a relationship in my opinion. If my fiancé didn’t make me laugh like he does, I can honestly say I would have reconsidered. Laughing is one of the best forms of medication and making you feel good and if you cannot laugh together, what the hell you together for?
- Communicate, even when you don’t want to!
How many times have you and your partner had an argument and one of you stormed off in a mood and didn’t want to discuss it?! WRONG MOVE! Whilst some people hate to talk things through, communication is key. I legit cannot sleep if my partner and I have an argument and don’t sort it out. Never go to sleep angry with someone and just take that time to talk things over and sort it out before it blows out of proportion.
- Show appreciation, grow together, be proud and help each other to reach goals
I think one of the main things I have learned from being in a long-term relationship is that you need each other to grow. I like to think of us as plants. Plants need water and light to grow, well in a similar sense, we need our partners praise, care, support and appreciation to help us grow as people. When your partner does something great, appreciate them and show them you care and make them aware of how proud you are. Maybe one of you is better at something than the other, well how about teaching them as it might help them in the future. Keep the good vibes flowing together and watch your relationship nourish and grow.
- Make a ‘’’no phone hour’’
How often do you use your phone during the day? Maybe not as much as you do when you are at home because you are busy at work etc, but there is nothing more annoying than when you are trying to talk to your partner and they are more focused on a video on Instagram or a news story on Facebook. So how about set yourselves one hour a night where there are no phones allowed so you can truly enjoy the company of one another!
- Revive activities that helped you to fall in love
what was it you did when you first started dating that was lots of fun? Were there lots of trips to movie theatres, picnics in the park, race car driving? Whatever helped to start your relationship off, revisit that place – lots of old memories will come back to you both also.
- Keep others out of your relationship
want to protect your love? Keep others out of it. That does not mean do not tell your family or besties absolutely nothing about your relationship but keep what you do tell people to a minimum. The last thing you want is something you said backfiring on you.
- Make out and cuddle!
I make sure that every time I leave the house or come home, I kiss my partner like I really mean it, because I do, and I want him to know that. Don’t take your partner for granted. Kiss and cuddle often. It makes you feel so good!
- Always say ‘’I love you!’’
I don’t need to go into detail here, just do it.