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Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
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How to prevent the exploitation of vulnerable youths?

The short answer: the majority of grownups must stop being so naive

Statutory serial rapist after rapist is exposed. The attention in the reporting often goes to the immorality of the alleged perpetrators. Yet, a solution doesn’t lie there. Such bad apples will exist for many more years.

Rather, prevention will come when collectively we will become less naïve.

Sex is nature’s way to help close people bonds. More so women than men, though. But, modernity equals it with recreational sex. Freedom of choice.

Sex is the polar opposite of enforcement. But, for some people, non-consensual enforcement of others improves their enjoyment of sex.

However, there are people, mostly but not only men, who dream of wild recreational sex with as many people as possible. They will typically look for young, naïve, vulnerable youth. (Vulnerable because they have no one to protect them.) You hardly will find them employed in senior homes. (Plan B would be to open a pub. Dim the lights, pour alcohol, feel free.)

These serial predators will prefer to set up their own youth organization or find one to work at. Among their clients, they pick their favorites. They have little empathy. As long as they feel good, all is well. They often will be con artists, exceedingly charming but eerily cold. Normal, feeling people must start to trust their intuition and learn to not see charming as warm.

Often, prevention simply comes from listening to one’s common sense. When someone sets up or leads in an organization for youths, s/he is a suspected serial sex offender. Those leaders who really care about the well-being of young people won’t be offended by such distrust. It should come with their work territory. Trust must be earned, not a given. And, no one should be above suspicion. Especially not people with a huge ego.

Female detectives should swarm around youth organizations like bees around a beehive. As if it is only a matter of time to catch a predator.

To sum it up: prevention needs us not to see charming as warm, and never trust any youth leader completely, especially not ‘charismatic’ people.

I also would like to promote my idea that our ability to have sex is abused when we use it just for fun. Just like our need for nutrition is abused when we eat junk. And, they both leave us unsatisfied. That idea is politically incorrect. But it’s part of my most frontier vision of radical democracy.

The Dutch professor who, in the Sixties, led the national organization for ‘sexual liberation’ told his medical students: ‘Sex for fun is not fun at all’!

About the Author
MM is a prolific and creative writer and thinker, an almost daily blog contributor to the Times of Israel, and previously, for decades, he was known to the Jerusalem Post readers as a frequent letter writer. He often makes his readers laugh, mad, or assume he's nuts—close to perfect blogging. He's proud that his analytical short comments are removed both from left-wing and right-wing news sites. * As a frontier thinker, he sees things many don't yet. He's half a prophet. Half. Let's not exaggerate. He doesn't believe that people observe and think in a vacuum. He, therefore, wanted a broad bio that readers interested can track a bit about what (lack of) backgrounds, experiences, and education contribute to his visions. * To find less-recent posts on subject XXX among his over 1550 archived ones, go to the right-top corner of a Times of Israel page, click on the search icon and search "zuiden, XXX". One can find a second, wilder blog, to which one may subscribe, here: https://mmvanzuiden.wordpress.com/. * Like most of his readers, he believes in being friendly, respectful, and loyal. Yet, if you think those are his absolute top priorities, you might end up disappointed. His first loyalty is to the truth. He will try to stay within the limits of democratic and Jewish law, but he won't lie to support opinions or people who don't deserve that. He admits that he sometimes exaggerates to make a point, which could have him come across as nasty, while in actuality, he's quite a lovely person to interact with. He holds - how Dutch - that a strong opinion doesn't imply intolerance of other views. * Sometimes he's misunderstood because his wide and diverse field of vision seldomly fits any specialist's box. But that's exactly what some love about him. He has written a lot about Psychology (including Sexuality and Abuse), Medicine (including physical immortality), Science (including basic statistics), Politics (Israel, the US, and the Netherlands, Activism), Oppression and Liberation (intersectionally, for young people, the elderly, non-Whites, women, workers, Jews, LGBTQIA+, foreigners and anyone else who's dehumanized or exploited), Integrity, Philosophy, Jews (Judaism, Zionism, Holocaust, and Jewish Liberation), the Climate Crisis, Ecology and Veganism, Affairs from the news, or the Torah Portion of the Week, or new insights that suddenly befell him. * His most influential teachers (chronologically) are his parents, Nico (natan) van Zuiden and Betty (beisye) Nieweg, Wim Kan, Mozart, Harvey Jackins, Marshal Rosenberg, Reb Shlomo Carlebach, and, lehavdil bein chayim lechayim, Rabbi Dr. Natan Lopes Cardozo, Rav Zev Leff, and Rav Meir Lubin. * He hopes that his words will inspire and inform, and disturb the comfortable and comfort the disturbed. He aims to bring a fresh perspective rather than harp on the obvious and familiar. He loves to write encyclopedic overviews. He doesn't expect his readers to agree. Rather, original minds should be disputed. In short, his main political positions are among others: anti-Trumpism, anti-elitism, anti-bigotry and supremacy, for Zionism, Intersectionality, and non-violence, anti those who abuse democratic liberties, anti the fake ME peace process, for original-Orthodoxy, pro-Science, pro-Free Will, anti-blaming-the-victim, and for down-to-earth, classical optimism, and happiness. * He is a fetal survivor of the pharmaceutical industry (https://diethylstilbestrol.co.uk/studies/des-and-psychological-health/), born in 1953 to parents who were Dutch-Jewish Holocaust survivors who met in the largest concentration camp in the Netherlands, Westerbork. He grew up a humble listener. It took him decades to become a speaker too. Bullies and con artists almost instantaneously envy and hate him. * He holds a BA in medicine (University of Amsterdam) – is half a doctor. He practices Re-evaluation Co-counseling since 1977, is not an official teacher anymore, and became a friendly, empowering therapist. He became a social activist, became religious, made Aliyah, and raised three wonderful kids non-violently. For a couple of years, he was active in hasbara to the Dutch-speaking public. He wrote an unpublished tome about Jewish Free Will. He's being a strict vegan since 2008. He's an Orthodox Jew but not a rabbi. He lives with his library in Jerusalem. Feel free to contact him. * His writing has been made possible by a (second-generation) Holocaust survivors' allowance from the Netherlands. It has been his dream since he was 38 to try to make a difference by teaching through writing. He had three times 9-out-of-10 for Dutch at his high school finals but is spending his days communicating in English and Hebrew - how ironic. G-d must have a fine sense of humor. In case you wonder - yes, he is a bit dyslectic. If you're a native English speaker and wonder why you should read from people whose English is only their second language, consider the advantage of having an original peek outside of your cultural bubble.
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