Everybody, or at least everyone in Israel, knows that “I support Israel but …” means: I hate Israel, I hate Jews but I will give you ‘reasonable’ reasons why you shouldn’t love Jews and Israel so deeply. It’s no different from ‘I like Jews but ….’ It’s bigotry against Jews.
On the other side of the ideological chasm, we find something very similar. These are not people who hate Jews but who are naive to the bone (most people who didn’t survive genocide or an abusive marriage).’We will have peace in the Middle East if both parties would be reasonable.’ The problem around Israel is only one: hatred of Jews. You cannot undo that by pleading for reasonableness. If there was no anti-Semitism, a plea for ‘reasonableness’ would be unnecessary. Now there is, ‘reasonableness’ will not cut it.
Our Rabbis teach Jews to stop any ‘hatred for nothing’ between us because that will make us warrant the end of anti-Semitism. Jew-hatred is also baseless hatred. And the anti-dote to these forms of dislike is: ‘baseless love.’ Of course I respect all Jews. Of course I respect Israel. Without ifs and buts. Without reservation.
The way every parent should love his/her children. Unconditionally. That doesn’t mean that you don’t see their challenges or limitations. That doesn’t mean that you see or treat them all the same indiscriminately. That doesn’t mean that you trust them equally in all aspects in life. But you’ll respect and honor them before any criticism. You find closeness with them more important than anything you would wish from them.
Love your Jew as yourself. Try it. You will never look back.