If I am not for myself, who will be for me?

“If I am not for myself, who will be for me? But when I am only for myself, what am I? And if not now, when?” is attributed to the Jewish sage Hillel the Elder, one of the greatest scholars and spiritual leaders of the Jewish tradition.

This saying, although over two thousand years old, is incredibly relevant and profound, inviting us to reflect on the sense of personal responsibility and the urgency of action.

The first part of the saying (“If I am not for myself, who will be for me?”) highlights the importance of self-care. Hillel reminds us that the first step toward our well-being is up to us—we are our own greatest supporters. It’s an invitation to self-determination and an awareness of being the architects of our destiny. This principle does not imply a selfish attitude but rather a recognition of our own worth, enabling us to live in the world with dignity.

The second part (“But when I am only for myself, what am I?”) balances the first statement, introducing a reflection on others, those who are different from us. Focusing exclusively on oneself, without considering others, renders our existence empty and meaningless. Hillel challenges us to find a balance between how we live in the world and how we relate to others, emphasizing that human beings are social creatures whose identities are defined through relationships and contributions to the community in a perpetual mutual exchange.

Finally, the question “And if not now, when?” urges us not to postpone. It’s a powerful question, especially meaningful in today’s context. Procrastinating important decisions and actions can lead to missing valuable opportunities. The urgency for action is crucial, especially when it comes to matters of improving our lives or our social environment. Hillel makes a true call to action and awareness.

This saying is what convinced me, years ago now, to write about Israel, to create videos about Israel, and to speak about a topic I have emphasized since adolescence: anti-Semitism. It’s no secret that, especially in Europe—and even here in Italy, where I live—there has been a worrying resurgence of anti-Semitism.

This, in part, is the reason for this blog: to talk about Israel, but from a European and Italian perspective. To share my deep love for Judaism, Jewish culture, and my dream of one day living in Israel, which I consider my home.

I am Elisa Garfagna, voice actress, podcaster, writer, and mother of two wonderful children.