Isn’t it great, any love story? It’s swimming against the tide to say: “Not always.” But exactly that, I will do, while trying to sound reasonable.
Mind you: he’s Jewish, she’s Muslim.
That means that for traditional Muslims, their kids will be Jewish.
And for traditional Jews, their children will be Muslim.
With a variation to National Brotherhood Week by Tom Lehrer:
All the Muslims hate the pap
And all the Jews hate the mum
All the Christians hate the both
And everybody hates the kids.
I really don’t think it’s bad when one Muslim family line becomes non-Muslim, starts adhering to another idealism (Socialism, Veganism, Christianity, whatever). But when one Jewish family member opts out and goes Gentile, it’s a disaster. In every single case. Because Jews have a commitment to G^d and Humanity to lead setting the world right. If your mate is not into that, nothing will be left of that commitment.
(Also the consequences seem different in the two communities. For Jewish Law, such a man cannot be counted in a minyan or called up to the Torah; something violating Shabbat or kashrut laws cannot do. I’m no expert on Islam but I heard often that leaving Islam warrants the death penalty.)
S/he could join you? S/he supports the Jew in you? Then s/he must convert to Judaism first. If s/he is unwilling or unfit, s/he’s not for you.
Maybe you can’t force love but you must be able to say no in life.
BTW, Jewish parents, don’t tell your kids that Gentiles are anything less than us. It’s bad advertising and it’s not true. And when your child then finally meets this lovely, amazing, relaxed Gentile, don’t blame them for falling in love. Rather, say: “Gentiles can be wonderful people but what can we do? Our Father in Heaven has forbidden us to marry them.”
Our portion of the week contains the Ten Commandments, for us to spread throughout the world. That’s why they were given in no man’s land. They’re not ours to keep to ourselves. It starts with abundantly honoring a righteous Gentile who wants to help us. And his daughter who converted.
A Jew marrying out is also an unbelievable affront to and refutation of all the sacrifices hundreds of their ancestors made to stay Jewish.
He says he wanted to bring humor into Jazz and his situation. I understand that he feels like he needs to defend himself but I don’t find it funny. I call it making light of what isn’t. He should be democratically free to marry anyone he wants and face no social restrictions of personal scorn. But it’s not funny.
It’s different for a Jewish woman marrying out. At least her kids are Jewish (prenatal time counts!) and she has no obligation to marry. (But if she does, she should marry a Jew too.)
But he’s not so religious — how much damage did he do? Well, if he’d learn more Judaism, he’d know. I’m sure he meant no harm. And she loves a Jews. That can’t be wrong.
Yes, it’s very brave of them. But things done boldly can still be wrong.
One could object: But if he found love, what’s bad about that? It’s not the love that is bad. And I’m happy for his good fortune. But for me it means the same as a Jew converting, a disaster. And like every Jewish marriage and baby is happiness for all Jews, the opposite is sadness for all of us.
And if they’ll have kids, I’m sure they’ll be wonderful. But I hope they’ll convert to Judaism and become (married to) leading rabbis of their generation. And forgive their father for the trouble he gave them.
All people should intermarry. Anything else is nationalism, racism, cultural elitism and supremacy. One is German and one is Italian — adding up their cultures is enrichment. And kids being bilingual from the cradle. Great!
But this song doesn’t advocate that. He needs to give up being Jewish (having Jewish kids) and she should give up being a Muslim (drink beer and wine). The worst of both worlds. People who intermarry should appreciate cultural enrichment, not erase the ethical roots of each other’s heritage. (Yet, in a later explanation, they seem to try take the best of both worlds.)
One exception: the Jews.
We’re of all races. We’re of all cultures. We’re of all times. We’re the only People founded on a holy timeless Calling you’re not allowed to undo. Intermarriage with a Jew is not mutual enrichment but watering down the Jewish Mission. It’s not just your life to squander. Put it to music or not.