Jeffrey Kobrin
Looking to the Parasha to Inspire Our Parenting

Many Paths

Here’s one of the things we did in our house on Sunday to prepare for Pesach: we contrasted the visual commentaries of Cecil B. DeMille in 1956’s The Ten Commandments and that of Brenda Chapman, Steve Hickner and Simon Wells in 1998’s The Prince of Egypt on the splitting of the Yam Suf, the Red Sea.  (Here and here are the clips.  We found the parallel scene from Ridley Scott’s 2014 Exodus: Gods and Kings really inaccurate as a commentary, so I won’t link to it.)  In both films, walls of water gush hundreds of feet in the air while the People of Israel, both awe-stricken and proud, cross the seabed on dry land.  Their Egyptian pursuers eagerly chase after them, only to be drowned as the walls collapse upon them. Great, right? Only that’s not what happened.

Tosafot in Arachin explain that the Children of Israel actually did not cross the sea in a straight line like they do in the movies; rather, they walked in a u-shaped semi-circle, ending up further down on the same shore of the sea from which they set out.  The only reason they went into the water at all was to lure the Egyptians to their death, not in order to cross to the opposite shore.

We sometimes encounter insurmountable problems, and we are all grappling with a terrible reality right now.  But just as Bnei Yisrael journeyed forward, for the sake of our children, we must look towards a better future on the horizon.  As we prepare for Pesach this year, trying to keep our children happy, doing chesed for those in need, praying for those who are suffering illness, and mourning those we have lost, we remember and believe that we have no idea where things will lead.  If we truly believe that God stretches His hand, his yad hachazaka, into history, we must acknowledge that we cannot know what will happen next — but the resilience we are able to find right now will carry us through.

And there’s more, because the Mechilta and Pirkei de-Rabi Eliezer further ruin the movie version: not only did the people of Israel not walk in a straight line, but they did not even walk in a single line.  Citing the verse from Tehillim that says that God split the sea into pieces, gozer yam suf la-gezarim, they explain that each tribe traveled through their own path through the sea.  Imagine twelve parallel semicircular tracks from one part of the shore to another spot on the same shore.  As any runner or NASCAR driver knows, the inside track is always shorter than the outside track. Rabbi Yitzchak Mirsky, in his wonderful Haggadah Hegyonei Halacha, notes that this is why Hashem needed to knock the wheels off the Egyptian chariots.  The tribes on the outside tracks were afraid the Egyptians would take the inside track, would get to shore before they did, and would be able to recapture them.

There are multiple paths to the same destination.  Each of our families has different customs, different foods, different melodies and different memories at our respective Sedarim.  But ultimately we all end up on the same shore, singing the same song of praises to Hashem for delivering us from our enemies.  As bleak as it seemed in Egypt, Hashem delivered us in the blink of an eye; we should be confident again now that our redemption will come just as swiftly at the chosen time.  In this, we have much more in common than we have that separates us.  There are so many ways to celebrate and so many things about which to be thankful.

This is my thanks, part of my 7:00 clap.  I thank all the remarkable teachers and school administrators out there and the outstanding Educational Technology teams that support them, and I also thank the parents who have balanced their professional and family obligations to help their children succeed in their remote learning.  Each of you has helped preserve, strengthen and extend our school communities, keeping us close and reminding us of who stands and sings with us on the shore.

Chag kasher ve-sameach; may we all have a healthy, safe, meaningful and restful Pesach.

About the Author
Jeffrey Kobrin is the Rosh HaYeshiva/Head of School at the North Shore Hebrew Academy in Great Neck, New York. He has bachelors and masters degrees in English literature from Columbia University, semikha from RIETS at Yeshiva University, and a PhD in English education from Columbia University’s Teachers College. He lives in Riverdale, New York, with his wife, Michelle Greenberg-Kobrin, and their daughters.
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