I recently released a video on Tips for Dating Israeli Men. While many people loved the video, especially American women and some men who are waiting for the version about dating Israeli women, I did get some interesting feedback.
The video is a loving joke about the cultural gaps between us that can sometimes cause funny misunderstandings. As much as the video makes fun of some stereotypes of Israeli men, it is also making fun of us, American women – getting all excited about a guy calling us sweetie or thinking that a guy inviting us to a family dinner must mean it is a serious relationship.
1. One of the tips was based on my very first culture gap experiences.
It was with the first guy I dated in Israel. I was surprised when he took me back home to his parents’ house when we were both twenty-two years old. What was more shocking to me was that his parents were completely fine with it. For instance, I had a very serious boyfriend in college in the US and our parents (both his parents and mine) made us sleep on opposite sides of the house.
These were my two favorite responses to that tip:
From a fellow American female who lived in Israel:
From an Israeli guy I went out with twice, who was in his thirties and living at home with his parents:
2. Then of course there were the Israeli men who were very defensive. They seemed to think that the best way to get back at me was to call me a lonely, man-hating lesbian. This is one of the funniest examples of that:
With one of the slides jokingly saying that all men with names that end with y, i, or ie sounds are players, I got this response:
4. The tips were obviously targeted to the more secular audience, but that did not stop some religious people from jumping into the conversation:
5. I also got a number of private messages legitimately pointing out that I might have been dating the wrong type of people.
6. Then there were the more serious comments about racism, which I took very seriously. I consider myself to be very liberal and open minded, but I guess if you don’t know me, the joke could leave some with a bad taste. But to set the record straight: The joke about men being primitive is a joke. Clearly, not all men are primitive, not all Ashkenazi men are primitive, and not all Sephardic men are primitive. It is funny to me that people got more upset about the Sephardic comment but not at all about the Ashkenazi comment, when it was just as much, if not more of a dig, on Ashkenazi men. And for the record, I came up with it when I was dating a Sephardic guy and he thought it was hilarious.
However, I thought that these were the best response to the racist allegation:
(I’m not saying that I’m any where near the same level as Eretz Nehedert, but half of their jokes are based on the different cultures within Israel.)
7. One of my favorite responses was from a guy who assured me that us women are not alone!
8. And I saved the best response for last – the allegation that I was anti-Israeli, anti-Zionist, and anti-Semitic. However, the problem is that the thread was deleted so I don’t have the original comment. But to say the least, I was berated as being a greater threat to Israel than Iran, Hezbollah, and Hamas combined. This was my response.
So, what is your response to the video?