I wasn’t sure if I should post this. I am not dedicated to broadcasting every aspect of my life on public forums. Generally speaking, I use social media platforms to project something positive that has taken place in my life in the hope that others will draw inspiration.
Our family custom is making parties (perhaps this is why I thrive at my job as Events Manager). We do so whenever a child or grandchild arrives, reaches a milestone or other events – we make a party so that others can come and eat something…a way to get people to bless the Ribbono Shel Olam – a way of saying thank you to Hashem for the very blessings he has imparted to us. In fact, on almost every invitation we send out, we use the headline “טוב להודות להשם It is good to bless God”.
So, you can understand my hesitancy with this post. Something terrible has happened. Our beautiful granddaughter (and yes, בלי עין הרע all of our grandchildren are beautiful) Mia Rose Hershkowitz passed away on Tuesday at age 3.5 months.
On the other hand, there are moments in time when we can be inspired by a short sentence uttered by someone – and it is for that reason that I post. In his eulogy, while trying to comfort Elana (whose own eulogy for Mia was moving beyond words), Matan said, “The happiness that we experienced with Mia in the short time we had with her is still greater than all the pain I am in today.”
So, there it is – the reason for this post. GO out, hug your children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren – be joyful to the max (who is this guy “max” anyway?). Savor every precious moment. Celebrate EVERY LITTLE milestone – as I say to my simcha clients, “There are NO ‘small’ events only small guest lists”. Find the good in every bad. Be thankful for your spouse and all that you accomplish together, be proud of your kids, be grateful for your friends and remember that God loves us and just because we can’t figure out what HE is doing doesn’t mean HE doesn’t love us..it just means we have yet to figure it all out.
There is NO need to publicly respond to this post. As I said when asked if I would speak at the funeral – “It’s not about me – it’s about THEM (the children)” . Your actions within your own lives are more important than public comments of sympathy. Go forth from the keyboard and live your real lives – not a virtual one.