Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
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Sexual repression by Jews shows they left our tradition

Suspect abuse when Jews defend not following the ways of old.

Classical Christianity regarded sexuality as so sinful that it barely could permit it but for procreation.

Classical Hellenist culture saw sexuality for the powerful as a great way to pass time. This included temporary love and sexual relations between adult teachers and their youthful male students.

In contrast with the two above extremes, Traditional Judaism holds that sexuality is neither dirty nor just for the fun of it. Rather, it is holy and should not be squandered. Besides, it is a sin to forgo its pleasure (within a proper framework) as that is refusing a gift from G^d Himself. And, husbands should, first of all, see it as an obligation to their wives (in ways to her liking) before any right they would like to claim.

It seems, now, that Jews who deviate from the historical-Jewish path of sexuality and consider sex dirty not only have intimacy problems. Those supposedly Puritan attitudes are not holy, come from assimilating to Christian norms, and signal great overall problems. Two examples.

Jewish women don’t cover their faces because the body is not dirty. Animals can walk around naked. Rather, Jews are encouraged to cover enough of their bodies that their personalities, Souls come out.

In Beit Shemesh there was a lady ‘so devote’ that she walked around covered from head to toe and wearing several vails over each other. So much so that she needed to hold a daughter’s hand to navigate the street.

For her bizarre dress code dubbed ‘Taliban mum,’ her moniker turned out all too true. She and her husband have committed and were convicted for severe child abuse over many years. Holier than thou are often neither.

Another sex abuse case is what happens in the Jewish sect of Gur. Despite the wonderful teachings of the Patriarchs of Gur, the anti-sexual codes that developed inside the Gur community had nothing to do with mainstream Traditional Judaism. That should have led to deep suspicion and police work, but nothing was done.

Now, it turns out that in the Gur community, sexual predators were protected and community members who protested the repression were severely punished. The severe purity was simply indicating abuse.

And worse than that, the whole attitude of ‘violence will get us what we want’ became the overall default language in the cult-like community. It is late, very late, but police and social workers must move in to protect and extract the most vulnerable. No aberration can be so terrible or it can be repaired, but some outside action for first aid is long overdue.

Beware of Jews claiming sex is dirty. Something is amiss there.

The same suspicion we must have toward Jews claiming everything is sex.

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