… Even though these prohibit and these permit, these disqualify and these allow, Beit Shammai did not refrain from marrying women from Beit Hillel, nor did Beit Hillel refrain from marrying women from Beit Shammai. And similarly with regard to purity and impurity: where these ruled a matter pure and these ruled it impure, they did not refrain from using utensils the other deemed pure. -Mishna Yevamot 1:4
The schools of Hillel and Shammai were at odds with each other on numerous topics recorded in the Talmud. Many of these were serious existential issues that had real life ramifications. If, for example, Beit Shammai deemed a particular marriage sanctioned by Beit Hillel to be invalid on halakhic grounds it meant that the offspring’s status was forever tainted. And they fought over these details, tooth and nail. Nevertheless, the Mishna tells us, when it comes to the basic fabric of their society – who they married and who they broke bread with – they were able to transcend these deep divides.
We live in an age of great polarization. Never before has the conversation been so shrill and strident. Our society has gradually lost its ability to disagree with civility and respect. We are dismissive of the other’s perspective to the point that we do not give space to non-conforming opinions and people. This is true across the political spectrum and not just in American culture and politics.
We need to learn to find the path back to real discourse. This starts by being ready to make space for the other. This begins when we can acknowledge that there is legitimacy to alternate perspectives even when they run counter our own. We must heal the divide by allowing space for the other.