Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
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Super-Straight, the newest insensitivity and bigotry

There is nothing wrong with being Straight (Male, White, Rich, etc.) as long as you acknowledge your underserved overprivileged-ness and use your social strength to stand with the weaker.

Super-Straight is a brand-new term for men unwilling to date Trans-women. They claim they’re not oppressive because “that’s my sexual orientation.”

First of all, Super-Straight is not a sexual orientation.

Some think this whim is actually a run-away joke. But there is nothing funny about being insensitive about stuff for which so many young people are tempted to commit suicide or are bashed, raped, and murdered.

They have been heard saying that they are SS (what’s in a name), and only date ‘real women.’ Implying that Trans-women ‘not real women’ is Transphobic. So, small wonder that some Trans vloggers see them as Transphobic.

However, it seems to me that these men (!) are rather Homophobic. They are fond of women but terrified of male bodies.

Some Straight Men will say that they happen to be attracted only to very effeminate women (whatever that’s supposed to mean) but the idea that Trans-women by definition always would be kind-of-male is Transphobic nonsense. It depends on the person. (Hurry for those Transgender-(wo)men who don’t make a gender caricature of their appearance but stop at what fits them.)

These Trans vloggers (see the vlogs above and below) stress that everyone is free to not want to date Trans-people. But not all reasons for that are equal. It makes a difference if you say “I can’t handle the stress,” “I’m not ready for that,” or “I only want real [sic] women.”

Besides, saying you’re “simply not attracted to ….” often simply sounds oppressive. You can say “I’ve never felt attracted to an Asian person.” Fair enough. But to say in your dating profile “No Asians” is 100% Racist. And not only are you rejecting a whole section of the population without checking, which is stupid. If you are part of a choir saying this, you collectively also give Asians (fat people, Trans-people, gender-non-conforming people, etc.) the feeling that they are defective and not welcome. (It’s very different from “No (wo)men” which is a truly immutable sexual orientation for most people.) “That is especially damaging inside the LGBTQ+ community. People survive Queers’ oppression, have the courage to enter a non-normative community and find there … massive bigotry against them? Say no to tolerance for bigotry anywhere, but especially inside liberation movements.

As it says so clearly and famously in Leviticus: “I expect you to make your fellow [human] feel loved just like you make yourself feel loved, which equals acknowledging that] I am G^d.” Or: “I expect you to make your fellow [human] feel loved. I, G^d, am like you. [I also make My fellow [human] feel loved.] ”

Let’s hope that the notion of Super-Straights will disappear as quickly as it appeared. Woke Straight people have a hard enough time as it is to gather some pride (instead of obnoxious arrogance) with all the oppression that is going on in their name.

About the Author
MM is a prolific and creative writer and thinker, a daily blog contributor to the TOI. He is a fetal survivor of the pharmaceutical industry (, born in 1953 to two Dutch survivors who met in the largest concentration camp in the Netherlands, Westerbork, and holds a BA in medicine (University of Amsterdam). He taught Re-evaluation Co-counseling, became a social activist, became religious, made Aliyah, and raised three wonderful kids. He wrote an unpublished tome about Jewish Free Will. He's a strict vegan since 2008. He's an Orthodox Jew but not a rabbi. * His most influential teachers (chronologically) are: his parents, Nico (natan) van Zuiden and Betty (beisye) Nieweg, Wim Kan, Mozart, Harvey Jackins, Marshal Rosenberg, Reb Shlomo Carlebach, and, lehavdil bein chayim lechayim: Rabbi Dr. Natan Lopes Cardozo, Rav Zev Leff, and Rav Meir Lubin. * Previously, for decades, he was known to the Jerusalem Post readers as a frequent letter writer. For a couple of years, he wrote hasbara for the Dutch public. His fields of attention now are varied: Psychology (including Sexuality and Abuse), Medicine (including physical immortality), Science (statistics), Politics (Israel, the US and the Netherlands, Activism - more than leftwing or rightwing, he hopes to highlight Truth), Oppression and Liberation (intersectionally, for young people, the elderly, non-Whites, women, workers, Jews, LGBTQIA, foreigners and anyone else who's dehumanized or exploited), Integrity, Philosophy, Jews (Judaism, Zionism, Holocaust and Jewish Liberation), Ecology and Veganism. Sometimes he's misunderstood because he has such a wide vision that never fits any specialist's box. But that's exactly what many love about him. Many of his posts relate to affairs from the news or the Torah Portion of the Week or are new insights that suddenly befell him. * He hopes that his words will inspire and inform, reassure the doubters but make the self-assured doubt more. He strives to bring a fresh perspective rather than bore you with the obvious. He doesn't expect his readers to agree. Rather, original minds must be disputed. In short, his main political positions are: anti-Trumpism, for Zionism, Intersectionality, non-violence, democracy, anti the fake peace process, for original-Orthodoxy, Science, Free Will, anti blaming-the-victim and for down-to-earth optimism. Read his blog how he attempts to bridge any discrepancies. He admits sometimes exaggerating to make a point, which could have him come across as nasty, while in actuality, he's quite a lovely person to interact with. He holds - how Dutch - that a strong opinion doesn't imply intolerance of other views. * His writing has been made possible by an allowance for second-generation Holocaust survivors from the Netherlands. It has been his dream since he was 38 to try to make a difference by teaching through writing. He had three times 9-out-of-10 for Dutch at his high school finals but is spending his days communicating in English and Hebrew - how ironic. G-d must have a fine sense of humor. In case you wonder - yes, he is a bit dyslectic. November 13, 2018, he published his 500th blog post with the ToI. If you're a native English speaker and wonder why you should read from people whose English is only their second language, consider the advantage of having a peek outside of your cultural bubble. * To find his earlier blog posts on a certain subject XXX, among his over 1200 ones, go to the right-top corner of the Times of Israel page, click on the search icon and search "zuiden, XXX". His second daily active less tame blog, to which one may subscribe, one may find here: or by clicking on the globe icon next to his picture on top. * To send any personal reaction to him, scroll to the top of the blog post and click Contact Me.
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