In the news in the US, the saga over Brett Kavanagh had brought out the worst in people. My opinion on him will be left unsaid. My concern is the survivors of sexual abuse and what people are saying to them.
I was sexually abused from the age of three until fifteen.I never told anyone. I was threatened, told my parents would hate me etc and so on. I have been reading statuses on social media. I have been reading commentary from pundits. I have been reading comments from the president and members of Congress. One thing is clear: victims are being told to stay silent.
With every meme, every joke, victims are bring told they do not matter. Their experiences are not something anyone wants to hear. We are a joke. We are not important.
The thing is: sexual abuse happens. It is real. It can be life changing. It affects every aspect of our lives. We have been keeping it secret and letting it fester and at times consume us. We turn to alcohol and drugs to try and stop the horrors. We have nightmares.
We do matter. Our experiences are real. We survived horrific acts. We are survivors.