‘The more I know humans, the more I love animals’
One of my childhood memories about my grandparents’ house in Italy was a small plaque attached above the kitchen’s door: “The more I know humankind, the more I love animals.’ It’s a memory that has probably stuck with me because I’ve always associated my grandfather with the figure of a person skilled with people and refined in manners. His distancing from the human experience as a universal experience is something that probably didn’t make much sense to me at the time.
My grandfather was born in Corfu, Greece. He was part of the island’s Apulian Jewish community, the poorest compared to the other Italian (from Venice) and Romaniote (Greece) Jewish communities on the island. In all, about 6,000 Jews. It’s somewhat ironic that in such a small community, there were distinctions in identity and social class. Despite its small number, the Jewish community of Corfu was able to live in a bubble of serenity for centuries compared to the persecutions that other Jews endured in the rest of Europe. This oasis of tolerance occurred not out of love from the other islanders but as a result of the convenience of maintaining Corfu as a balanced reality among the various surrounding powers that desired it.
Throughout its history, Corfu has been coveted, conquered, and fortified by numerous powers, including Greeks, Romans, Byzantines, Venetians, French, and British, and was even part of the (British) United States of the Ionian Islands – which granted relative autonomy to the islands – before becoming part of modern Greece in 1864. Its strategic importance has diminished with time, but its rich history remains a testament to its once pivotal role in the Mediterranean.
I can imagine my grandfather, who spoke Italian (and Venetian), Greek, French, Arabic, and Ladino, holding moderate conversations with those who carried different cultural baggage and sometimes headed in diametrically opposite directions. By profession, he was a merchant of clothing fabrics. Recognizing and delivering fabrics in certain quantities and quality surely required not just a sensitive touch and a good eye but also a good dose of diplomacy.
The relationship between the Jews and the other inhabitants of the island had already deteriorated by my grandfather’s time. A couple of decades before his birth, a sadly infamous incident of blood libel occurred in Corfu. Blood libel was an accusation that had been circulating in Europe for centuries – killing Christian children to use their blood for religious ritual purposes – and justified violence against Jews. In 1891, a Christian girl from the island disappeared, and the Jews were baselessly accused of having kidnapped and killed her; this led to a series of attacks and a subsequent deterioration in the relationships between the island’s inhabitants.
Yet, my family lived for centuries in Corfu and, even before that, in Puglia and Calabria. I have no doubt that it was with a heavy heart that my grandfather decided to leave the island in the 1920s. A choice that was revealed to be a hidden miracle as later historical events unfolded. The birth and growth of extreme nationalistic political sentiments, such as Italian fascism and German Nazism, had a devastating impact on the island’s inhabitants.
Particularly on the Jews who were deported, all of them, to the Auschwitz extermination camp as one of the Nazis’ final acts at almost the end of the war despite their awareness of their defeat in WWII.
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Marble sign in memory of the Jews of Corfu. 2009 / Personal photo library.
In those years, my family moved to a foreign land, a newborn independent country: Egypt. Modern Egypt emerged in 1922 from the former Ottoman Empire’s ruins and the subsequent British Empire protectorate. Just a few years before my grandfather’s arrival, Muslims and Christian Copts were marching side by side, chanting the same chants and demanding the recognition of the national ambitions and independence of Egypt. It was a moment evoking freedom and justice; how couldn’t it be the perfect place for Jews to live peacefully? But Egypt was just at the beginning of its journey to understand itself as an independent modern country.
Grateful for the miracle that saved my family from the fascists and the Nazis, I am also sincerely grateful to Egypt for those times when my family found shelter. My father was born in Alexandria, Egypt, in 1941. Egypt was also home to another 80,000 Egyptian Jews, most of them living in Cairo for centuries. The Jewish Egyptian community was one of the oldest Jewish communities of the diaspora.
My mother and father met in Rome, and Milan is where I was born. My mother converted to Judaism in the ’60s (in Italy, Judaism has historically been Orthodox, despite varying levels of observance by its community) and was the engine behind my Jewish religious education. My holidays were quite interesting, including the related meals. I often found Greek, Egyptian, Moroccan, Turkish, and Italian dishes on the table, each referring to a specific aunt or time, as if the ingredients and the process of preparing those recipes were keeping a connection with a past land or people.
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Welcome to Texas sign at the state border. / Shutterstock Library by photo.ua
When I was five, my family moved to the USA for four years. Houston, Texas, and Brooklyn, NY, to be precise. It was the seventies, and I guess the radical change in scenarios, sounds, and scents helped keep my childhood memories alive. I can vividly recall sitting in the back of my father’s car while he was listening to his eight-track music cassette. Nothing unusual, just an Egyptian-Italian family listening to Swedish Abba driving through Texas.
Our norm was to live loving others, and life will love you back. Keep it simple. If possible. In Brooklyn, when I was attending third grade in a public school, a reporter from the New York Times came to photograph and interview our class. An Italian classmate had just arrived from Italy, escaping the devastating Irpinia earthquake that left over 2,400 people dead and over 7,700 injured. I was there translating and helping him integrate into his new reality. What a great example of the multicultural power of the US! It was 1980.
However, once I returned to Italy and grew from childhood to adolescence, I began to look at the world differently. And as a matter of fact, I was experiencing a completely different world. Growing up in the US for four years, singing a national anthem with my hand on my heart and promises of a land of freedom and justice did not have much to do with my Italian life. After a couple of years attending an international school, I joined a Jewish school. And as particular as that may sound, it was really an eye-opener to the diversity that reigns in the Jewish world.
I grew up with friends whose families had to escape from Afghanistan, Egypt, Iran, Iraq, Lebanon, Libya, Morocco, Syria, Tunisia, and Turkey. I never heard my friends or their families talking about revenge or return. Living in the moment, with great food and hearts towards Jerusalem, was the spirit as it has always been for the Jews in the diaspora. In that context, I also made Italian and northern European Jewish friends. All with a family story that resembles a miracle that saved them from the Nazi fury.
My decision as an adult to move back to the USA to build my family was driven by multiple factors. Nevertheless, I feel as if something stuck with me from my American childhood experience that subtly guided my choices. I guess the promise – fulfilled or not – of a just and balanced society was audacious and bold, unlike any other. I felt I wanted to be part of that audacity. I wanted to defy that status quo of passively accepting injustice as inevitable as if there was a script written on top of our heads that was dooming our human experience into a constant conflict.
I look back at my memories and see that plaque above the kitchen door: “The more I know humankind, the more I love animals.” I understand it much better today. As a simple plaque on the wall, sometimes we need to reject the horrors that humanity can produce. And, in the realization of that thought, the instant awareness that it is just an illusion not to be part of that same human experience that gathers us all. I am grateful to my family, who have always been able to transform pain into love for their children and necessity into opportunity. I am grateful I was taught to be aware of the world’s ugliness, but to focus on and nurture its beauty.