Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
Psychology, Medicine, Science, Politics, Oppression, Integrity, Philosophy, Jews

This is what Kavanaugh should answer

Don’t say that my suggestion for what the candidate Supreme Court Judge should say is too long an answer. He likes long answers. I suggest the following.

I have categorically stated that I didn’t do anything of the sexual violations that I’m accused of. I want to be more precise.

Protection and Honor for Accusers

In the recent year, we learned the great difficulty and the value of women and minors coming forward with sexual abuse allegations. That fact that now I’m accused doesn’t make me detract from this principle.

Alleged victims of sexual violence must be supported to tell their stories. To come forward is painful enough which should not be aggravated by voicing disbelief, counter-accusations or harsh interrogations.

While people accused are innocent until found guilty, accusers still deserve initial blanket respect and support.

That my first accuser has been threatened does not only sadden me – it infuriates me. How dare people threaten her?! These intimidations must be investigated and the perpetrators should face the courts!

Respect for accusers is ever more demanded when the accuser is a widely respectable member of society, as in the case of my two present accusers.

NB: We must even make sure we grant esteem and safety to accusers who are “less respectable,” as some “high-class” sexual abusers especially go after the socially weak so that when accusations surface, they won’t be believed so easily.

Four Types of Men

Not to get lost in he/she’s, I’ll restrict myself to talk about the majority of sexual predators, men, although there are also sexually abusive women, whose abuse may not be less painful, though they are less likely to kill.

1. There are men who are serial sexual predators. They are dangerous around women, girls, boys or men – or combinations – and they should be reported and receive life in jail without any possibility of parole. Having such people walk around freely is too costly to our society.

2. Then there are men who are even more sneaky and despicable since they combine being supposedly saintly with their habit to hurt others sexually. To mind comes this sport’s coach who from his own money erected an orphanage and gave the most talented boys a chance to excel in sports. This all to get the image of a saint while selecting boys he would molest. They too should sit in jail without a possibility of parole.

3. Then there are men who may have sexually violated others one or a few times. They are not addicted to the thrill of violating someone. They should pay penalty to victim and society and after that reintegrate to be valuable members of society.

4. Last but not least, are the men who will never be accused or convicted of sexual misconduct for the simple reason that they never abused anyone. Their numbers are often overlooked in the media and in our minds.

The whole dispute around my youthful conduct has been if I belong to 3. or 4. Let me address this.

My Accusations

I’ve been accused of having acted outside of character, a few times, many decades ago. I’ve not been accused of being a serial sex offender.

The accusations against me fall now outside of the statute of limitations. That doesn’t absolve us from convicting such alleged behavior.

What I’m accused of is, until today, not unheard of among university students but it’s wholly unacceptable. Prevalence does not lend consent.

May the accusations against me, first of all, be a warning to all present-day students that is you don’t want to hurt others and if you don’t want to be haunted later in life by such allegations, make then sure that your sexual conduct is impeccable, also when you’re “only” a youngster.

Being drunk is no accuse. Who allowed you to be drunk but you?!

I have denied the accusations but it’s also stated that I was dead drunk. That would be a good explanation for me not remembering, so my denial doesn’t mean it didn’t happen or I lied. Let me for arguments’ sake say that I did as alleged. Should that disqualify me?

I want to say that, though I was never prosecuted or convicted, if I acted as accused, I did rehabilitate myself all my professional life. As I’ve detailed in the hearings, I have liberally beyond any call of duty, supported women around the courts. I’ve been a practical advocate for women and their careers all my working life, which I will stay.

While the accusations are serious and deserve regret, it’s a bit late for a conviction, but I’ve proven for decades that I’m not a threat but rather a source of support for all women around me.

I do no longer reject the accusations. If I did do any of them, I regret them and I’m humbled by them. But still, I want to say that I’ve proven to be beyond such conduct since then and safe and generous towards women. Therefore I think that I qualify for the job of Chief Justice.

About the Author
The author is a fetal survivor of the pharmaceutical industry (DES - Diethylstilbestrol), born in 1953 to two Dutch Holocaust survivors who met in the largest concentration camp in the Netherlands, Westerbork, and holds a BA in medicine (University of Amsterdam). He taught Re-evaluation Co-counseling, became a social activist, became religious, made Aliyah, and raised three wonderful kids. He wrote an unpublished tome about Jewish Free Will. He's a vegan for 8 years now. * His most influential teachers (chronologically) are: his parents, Nico (natan) van Zuiden and Betty (beisye) Nieweg, Wim Kan, Mozart, Harvey Jackins, Marshal Rosenberg, Reb Shlomo Carlebach and lehavdiel bein chayim lechayim: Rabbi Dr. Natan Lopes Cardozo and Rav Zev Leff. * Previously, for decades, he was known to the Jerusalem Post readers as a frequent letter writer. For a couple of years he wrote hasbara for the Dutch public. His fields of attention now are varied: Psychology (including Sexuality and Abuse), Medicine (including physical immortality), Science, Politics (Israel, the US and the Netherlands, Activism - more than leftwing or rightwing, he hopes to highlight Truth), Oppression and Liberation (intersectionally, for young people, the elderly, non-Whites, women, workers, Jews, GLBTQAI, foreigners and anyone else who's dehumanized or exploited), Integrity, Philosophy, Jews (Judaism, Zionism, Holocaust and Jewish Liberation), Ecology and Veganism. Many people can't understand or like him because he has such a wide vision that he never fits any specialist's box. But that exactly what others love about him. Many of his posts relate to affairs from the news or the Torah Portion of the Week or are new insights that suddenly befell him. * He hopes that his words will inspire and inform, reassure the doubters but make the self-assured doubt more. He strives to bring a fresh perspective rather than bore you with the obvious. He doesn't expect his readers to agree. Rather, original minds must be disputed. In short, his main political positions are: anti-Trumpism, for Zionism, Intersectionality, non-violence, democracy, anti the fake peace process, for original-Orthodoxy, Science, Free Will, anti blaming-the-victim and for down-to-earth optimism. Read his blog how he attempts to bridge any discrepancies. He admits sometimes exaggerating to make a point, which could have him come across as nasty, while in actuality, he's quit a lovely person to interact with. He holds - how Dutch - that a strong opinion doesn't imply intolerance of other views. * His writing has been made possible by an allowance for second generation Holocaust survivors from the Netherlands. It has been his dream since he was 38 to try to make a difference by teaching through writing. He had three times 9-out-of-10 for Dutch at his high school finals but is spending his days communicating in English and Hebrew - how ironic. G-d must have a fine sense of humor. In case you wonder - yes, he is a bit dyslectic. November 13, 2018, he published his 500st blog post with the ToI. * He likes doing age-appropriate and age-inappropriate things and looks forward to getting to know his timeless mature out-of-the-box soul mate. * To send any personal reaction to him, scroll to the top of the blog post and click Contact Me.
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