The politician claims libel. But, in his court filings, he says: “What I wrote was wrong. I take responsibility for it. But I am not some dangerous monster who is out there hurting women and I won’t be engaging in any ‘friendly’ communication with any women other than my wife.”
Yet, as I mentioned yesterday, no one says sex offenders must look like monsters. The law doesn’t demand proof the accused was sub-human.
To go a little into the particulars of this case, in his court papers, he sounds as if saying: “I was hurting and I meant no harm. If she doesn’t understand that, she’s malicious.” (I’m not saying that he sexually intimidated her.}
Yet, Israeli law is the most advanced of the world on this subject. Guilty is when someone merely feels frightened. Which is a correct sensitivity of the law. What right has anyone to scare others?!
What is consistent with most abusers here (but I’m not saying he actually abused her), is that he shows no regard for what she feels. It’s like saying (no, he didn’t say this — it’s an exaggeration to clarify my point): “I raped you but I meant no harm; but you are angry with me and want to curtail me so you are the wicked harmful one here.” What stands out is his total disregard for the victims. Why doesn’t 10% of his empathy go to them? Of course, it’s pure sexism to not see a woman’s side of things and to think, as a man, that women are just here to serve men and make them feel good.
I showed before that generally, abusers victimize while feeling the victim. This must be their childhood victimhood that made them callous, self-centered, and life-long victims. They rather harm than being vulnerable and risk ever getting hurt again. Chronic abusers frequently are also con artists, but when they claim that they are the victim, they often mean it.
Nobody is born an abuser. Abusers are made. Which doesn’t mean that they have no responsibility to prevent handing down their pain. We can understand abusers but we cannot justify their violation of others. When we equate history with cause, we just did away with free will. When you were vulnerable and defenseless, you were taught what is sexual abuse. But now you are big and independent, you must be with the good guys.
Equating understanding with pardoning erases all culpability. It means too: we all can just do what we feel like and disregard all effects on others.