Please see this clip, Oprah Winfrey Full Interview ‘Leaving Neverland’ Michael Jackson Accusers. It will take you an hour if you don’t press pause. In my opinion, it’s extremely well done.
Some of my takeaways:
Don’t keep the secret a secret. Talk. Find the safest person and start talking. There’s no talking too much about it. And living well is the best goal.
This is not about betraying the abuser. This is about not betraying your innocent self anymore.
Also, this is not about whether Michael Jackson was a sexual predator — it is not so much about him – although, also in Israel, many have started mourning losing the man they thought he was. Rather, it’s about how to understand sexual child molestation, how to start and keep healing (both for survivors and society) and prevention.
Healing is a process that takes years but is worth every step of the way.
For beginners, this clip is a good introduction to understanding that sexual abuse may feel great and how confusing that can be.
It also shows how fooled the courts were not to put one and one together: When an adult spends the night with kids in one bed repeatedly and has an alarm system set up in case someone approaches the bedroom, that adult is an abuser, no questions asked. How silly to assume that his victims could reveal the truth without many years of therapy as adults.
We need potential perpetrators to seek healing for how they were abused before they abuse others, including women perpetrators.
We need perpetrators to seek healing for how they were abused.
An open mind could ask: what was the trauma here, premature sexual activity or the training to be secretive about it? My answer today: If a sexual relationship is based on deceit and entrapment, it can’t be holy.
Also, the predatory side of the sexual relationships that the two survivors talk about doesn’t sound fulfilling to me. The abuser here comes across as a sex addict, not someone who found sexual satisfaction.
Everyone needs to face this stuff to prevent young people from being abused, drifting off into substance abuse and suicide. Watch it today. Why wait? The Oprah tape may be shocking but is not graphic. It may make you upset, cry or shiver but it won’t kill you or hurt you.
Be part of the hope. Play a part in healing the world.