Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
Psychology, Medicine, Science, Politics, Oppression, Integrity, Philosophy, Jews

Why really are so many Orthodox Jews negatively obsessed with homosexuals?

What follows is an un-nuanced story. That has two reasons. I don’t want to let sharp conclusions disappear in a cloud of nuances. And if you don’t like it, think of how gays feel about the lack of nuances when they are judged.

I was just at a symposium where they asked a forum of Orthodox rabbis why the Orthodox world makes such an issue of homosexuals. One after the other lied that it was the severity of ‘the prohibition.’ I just left. I can’t stomach so much nicely worded hatred. I will give you the real reasons.

1. Why is there such an uptick in antisemitism? As soon as the answer points at what Jews do, you know that that is a lie. The reason lies in the hearts of Gentiles. Likewise, pointing here at what homosexuals do is simply offensive. The prime reason for obsessing over homosexuals is that there is something thoroughly wrong with how heterosexuals think. It’s called homophobia but it’s not just fear. Heterosexuals are statistically much less capable of empathy. They sleep soundly while young gays kill themselves. Empathy can be learned but it may take a while before straights catch up.

2. Homosexuals on average are nice people. Too nice if you ask me. Heterosexuals splitting hairs on what they believe about homosexuality is on the back of gays feeling too unsure to rise up and shout them down. No one in the West would dare to discuss what’s wrong with non-whites but homosexuals are still fair game for so many ‘decent’ people.

3. Assimilation has made many Orthodox Jews confuse modest with prudish. Christianity has a love-hate relationship [puns not intended] with sexuality. Judaism originally didn’t. When sex becomes a taboo, it’s hard to think about it straight [another pun not intended].

4. There are two historical reasons. When gays came to the limelight en masse fifty years ago, including gay Jews, the rabbis could only conclude that that was caused by loose morals (‘Make love, not war’) penetrating [again not intended] from secular society because heterosexual Jews over decennia never gravitated to homosexuality. They did not know gays.

When the world finally found out that some people can (only) ‘become one flesh’ with someone of their own sex, it was hard for mediocre rabbis to backtrack. (Rabbis Kook and Feinstein did acknowledge Jews for whom homosexuality was natural but those remarks are suppressed.) Now it’s so bad that rabbis who admit to the obvious truth that the prohibition on homosexuality must be and can only be for straights, are accused of not being Orthodox. So they lie that the 50-year-old change in Jewish Law leaves them no choice instead of admitting that it was a costly mistake.

5. The other historic complication was AIDS. Jews just came out of the Holocaust, Israel was in constant danger, having children was a matter of survival (still), so how could they handle that some of the kids were gay (needed a partner with whom they could not procreate) and on top of that [no pun intended] were dying like flies. ‘Cures for homosexuality’ were wished up and invented — all a fraud.

6. In Israel there is an additional reason. They State had to be built and genocidal enemies had to be fought, in the shadow of the Holocaust. Those who came from the camps could either help or go to a mental institution. Ever since, the Israeli norm is that everyone must be normal. That is crazy [pun intended] but don’t blame the victim (the Jews).

Judaism was always a religion and lifestyle of reality and truth. Which is that there is nothing wrong, psychologically or religiously or morally with gay men and women looking for a same-sex partner, marrying them, and raising kids with them. They actually are better parents, as I wrote before.

About the Author
MM is a prolific and creative writer and thinker, a daily blog contributor to the TOI. He is a fetal survivor of the pharmaceutical industry (, born in 1953 to two Dutch survivors who met in the largest concentration camp in the Netherlands, Westerbork, and holds a BA in medicine (University of Amsterdam). He taught Re-evaluation Co-counseling, became a social activist, became religious, made Aliyah, and raised three wonderful kids. He wrote an unpublished tome about Jewish Free Will. He's a strict vegan since 2008. He's an Orthodox Jew but not a rabbi. * His most influential teachers (chronologically) are: his parents, Nico (natan) van Zuiden and Betty (beisye) Nieweg, Wim Kan, Mozart, Harvey Jackins, Marshal Rosenberg, Reb Shlomo Carlebach and lehavdiel bein chayim lechayim: Rabbi Dr. Natan Lopes Cardozo, Rav Zev Leff and Rav Meir Lubin. * Previously, for decades, he was known to the Jerusalem Post readers as a frequent letter writer. For a couple of years he wrote hasbara for the Dutch public. His fields of attention now are varied: Psychology (including Sexuality and Abuse), Medicine (including physical immortality), Science (statistics), Politics (Israel, the US and the Netherlands, Activism - more than leftwing or rightwing, he hopes to highlight Truth), Oppression and Liberation (intersectionally, for young people, the elderly, non-Whites, women, workers, Jews, GLBTQAI, foreigners and anyone else who's dehumanized or exploited), Integrity, Philosophy, Jews (Judaism, Zionism, Holocaust and Jewish Liberation), Ecology and Veganism. Sometimes he's misunderstood because he has such a wide vision that never fits any specialist's box. But that's exactly what many love about him. Many of his posts relate to affairs from the news or the Torah Portion of the Week or are new insights that suddenly befell him. * He hopes that his words will inspire and inform, reassure the doubters but make the self-assured doubt more. He strives to bring a fresh perspective rather than bore you with the obvious. He doesn't expect his readers to agree. Rather, original minds must be disputed. In short, his main political positions are: anti-Trumpism, for Zionism, Intersectionality, non-violence, democracy, anti the fake peace process, for original-Orthodoxy, Science, Free Will, anti blaming-the-victim and for down-to-earth optimism. Read his blog how he attempts to bridge any discrepancies. He admits sometimes exaggerating to make a point, which could have him come across as nasty, while in actuality, he's quit a lovely person to interact with. He holds - how Dutch - that a strong opinion doesn't imply intolerance of other views. * His writing has been made possible by an allowance for second generation Holocaust survivors from the Netherlands. It has been his dream since he was 38 to try to make a difference by teaching through writing. He had three times 9-out-of-10 for Dutch at his high school finals but is spending his days communicating in English and Hebrew - how ironic. G-d must have a fine sense of humor. In case you wonder - yes, he is a bit dyslectic. November 13, 2018, he published his 500st blog post with the ToI. If you're a native English speaker and wonder why you should read from people whose English is only their second language, consider the advantage of having a peek outside of your cultural bubble. * NEW: To see other blog posts by him, his overspill blog you can reach by clicking on the Website icon next to his picture at the head of every post. There you may find precursors to later TOI blog posts, addition or corrections of published TOI blog posts, blog posts the TOI will not carry and some thoughts that are too short to be a TOI blog post. Also, the TOI only allows for one blog post per blogger per 24 hours. Sometimes, he has more to say than that. * To send any personal reaction to him, scroll to the top of the blog post and click Contact Me.
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