I will restrict my hypothesis to men and monotheism. Maybe my suggestion would also apply to women and to other religions but one needs to start investigating somewhere.
The suffering afflicted on homosexual men by the monotheistic religions is enormous. So far, not great apologies have been uttered by prominent religious leaders. Though there have been righteous individuals who have tried at least to behave humanely towards homosexuals, especially some parents of homosexuals and rare theologians like some rabbis or priests.
One would assume that therefore homosexuals would all run from anything that looks like organized monotheistic religion. One would think that they would want nothing to do with religion that trashes and declares evil their innate human deep need for a profound sexual relationship with someone of their own gender. But that is not what one always observes.
Surely, there are homosexuals who drop traditional religion as part of their coming out and their liberation from internalized oppression. That should not astonish anyone. But surprisingly, we also see the very opposite.
Many a homosexual man has such deep religiosity that he could never stop being religious. They may wrestle for years with G^d how He could do this to them. How many heterosexuals would engage in such struggles without giving up on religion? When homosexuals leave religious communities, it often seems to be more a being ousted than running away.
I have seen another hint of homosexual men having an extra-large talent for religiosity. They often are the most religious persons in their families. (That would explain why, so sadly, homosexual children from very open-minded religious parents still have committed suicide. Their parents’ liberalism didn’t help them. That’s why it’s not enough to have tolerant religious allies — the whole premise of homosexuals’ sex being evil must go.)
One could try to psychoanalyze that deeper spirituality (away) but I want to suggest that this deep religiosity is a talent that has deeper roots than early hurt causing them. That they are hardwired in the brain.
And now that we’re at differences between homosexuals and heterosexuals, this greater religiosity reminds me of the one thing that I found in psychological literature in which homosexual men and women are significantly better than heterosexuals: empathy.
Their heightened empathy level could also explain why the so prevalent (and almost totally denied) occurrence of childhood sexual abuse does not seem to occur under homosexual parenthood. Deep psychotherapy shows that, on the watch of heterosexual parents, a vast majority of babies experience a lack of ‘sexual respect’ (no one trying anything sexual with them). Just imagine the uproar if such molestation was committed on the watch of only one homosexual couple. But there’s no uproar like that at all.
My suggestion is to investigate statistically if homosexual men indeed are more often the most religious in their families and communities than comparable heterosexuals. Since homosexuality among women seems more fluid, it would make sense to start investigating men first. But I wouldn’t be surprised if the same could be found among lesbians.
It would be the second psychological talent among homosexuals. One being, greater empathy — applying to the relationship between people. And secondly a greater religiosity — applying between humans and G^d.
I could understand why G^d, Who never makes a mistake, has made us live now with a million (5%) homosexual Jews and almost half a billion (5%) homosexual Gentiles. Such amounts exclude a quirk of Nature. They give away a deliberate Plan. And this could be a hint to all of us that we should improve relating to our fellow human beings and to the G^d Who loves us.