“If every person in the world would make one person happy, everyone would be happy.” – Wim Kan
I don’t want to insult anyone who is failing this, but it’s really simple.
How to be Happy
Lift the corners of your mouth. Decide to be happy for no reason at all. When you do that, many reasons to be happy will become clear to you.
Don’t wait to smile for when you will feel happy. That time may never come. First smile, the feeling will follow. But don’t fake it — mean it.
The pursuit of happiness is a trap to keep you chasing after something already within you. Stop hoping for happiness if only you …. It is better to work ambitiously while happy rather than dissatisfied. Shallow happiness comes from possessing; deep happiness from giving from the heart.
Set time aside to laugh and cry. It clears the heavy heart. Be happy to cry.
How to Have a Happy Relationship
For some people, the below is no good. They might be so deeply lonely that they need drama and screaming matches to begin to feel connected.
For most, the following recipe works well. 1. Choose someone willing to be generous. 2. Be generous. Don’t give in order to get. Just give. Give what your partner needs, not what you would like to have or be given.
This does not work with a partner who’s violent or unwaveringly stingy.
If both partners try to grab ‘enough,’ it will never be enough and dissatisfaction and disappointment will be your lot. But if both partners try to give liberally, both partners’ cups will be overflowing.
Instead of interrupting each other or having only one talk all the time, take turns listening to each other. Love whatever your partner says.
Don’t ever abuse sex to feel good or cover over emotional unhappiness. Be (and stay) emotionally close before being physically close.
If everyone would always do this, therapists would go poor.
“I too want an ideal world although I know it would leave me without income.” – Wim Kan, the father of Dutch political standup