Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
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Liking horrible Jews

Ready for a very touchy subject?

When you call someone worthless, how they hear that, very much depends on how they are oppressed. A working-class person will hear that as: you are stupid. A Black person will hear that as: you’d better die. And A Jew will hear it as: you are an Untermensch and should be exterminated. Oppressive to say such a thing in each situation.

However, not every insult touches the core of an oppression.

If you say: I hate kids, everyone will immediately hear that you have a mental problem. But if you say: I hate women, it reinforces sexism because women are supposed to make everyone feel great. It’s sexist.

When you say: I dislike your kind, no one will receive it as a compliment. But when you say it to a Black person or a Jew, you sound racist respectively antisemitic. You can’t say it, even if the person horrifies you.

Just like you can’t call any working-class person or any women stupid, or a handicapped person or non-Caucasian ugly. It’s oppressive.

I agree that Kushner looks like a Barbie doll and Menuchin sounds like an arrogant aristocrat, but you cannot ignore that they are Jews caught in the hostage situation created by antisemitism. That’s why both of them act so unnaturally (terrified), seem wax statues rather than warm people.

So, you can call their policies horrible but not them. That would be blaming the victim (hostage) and antisemitic, while letting the real power wheelers off the hook.

In the above clip, at the end, this famous interviewer says to this law professor that Menuchin won’t like her. She fires back: That’s OK. I also don’t like him. That is oppressive. Oops — an antisemitic statement.

We all need to learn to reject evil deeds, not any people. To play the ball, not the player, the Dutch say in soccer. Realize it’s not personal. Only G^d gets to judge people. (The professor learned to judge people but really not. Only their (mis)deeds. No one is violating the law by having horrible ideas or character traits — as long as they don’t act accordingly.)

You can disagree with what people say or do, but you cannot disrespect a Black person, be grossed-out by a Gay person, be condescending to a Woman, nor dislike a Jew. Because, if you do, you are being oppressive. We must all learn not to hurt anyone.

‘Trump is a monster’ is unfriendly but not oppressive. ‘Menuchin is a monster’ is oppressive. It’s not fair that we need to be so careful not to be bigots. But, would you rather deal with racism as a Black person than as a Caucasian, deal with antisemitism as a Jew rather than a Gentile, deal with sexism as a woman rather than a man, etc.? They deal with oppression every day all day long. It’s not too much to ask from Allies to do our fair share. Especially not because their group keeps the oppression going.

And ‘I really feel like that’ is no excuse. You would also not allow incest if the parent would ‘really feel like that.’

As long as you feel like that, you have a problem. Empathy (think of being in their place) may help. And stop looking at others as if you were superior.

About the Author
MM is a prolific and creative writer and thinker, a daily blog contributor to the TOI. He is a fetal survivor of the pharmaceutical industry (, born in 1953 to two Dutch survivors who met in the largest concentration camp in the Netherlands, Westerbork, and holds a BA in medicine (University of Amsterdam). He taught Re-evaluation Co-counseling, became a social activist, became religious, made Aliyah, and raised three wonderful kids. He wrote an unpublished tome about Jewish Free Will. He's a strict vegan since 2008. He's an Orthodox Jew but not a rabbi. * His most influential teachers (chronologically) are: his parents, Nico (natan) van Zuiden and Betty (beisye) Nieweg, Wim Kan, Mozart, Harvey Jackins, Marshal Rosenberg, Reb Shlomo Carlebach, and, lehavdil bein chayim lechayim: Rabbi Dr. Natan Lopes Cardozo, Rav Zev Leff, and Rav Meir Lubin. * Previously, for decades, he was known to the Jerusalem Post readers as a frequent letter writer. For a couple of years, he wrote hasbara for the Dutch public. His fields of attention now are varied: Psychology (including Sexuality and Abuse), Medicine (including physical immortality), Science (statistics), Politics (Israel, the US and the Netherlands, Activism - more than leftwing or rightwing, he hopes to highlight Truth), Oppression and Liberation (intersectionally, for young people, the elderly, non-Whites, women, workers, Jews, LGBTQIA, foreigners and anyone else who's dehumanized or exploited), Integrity, Philosophy, Jews (Judaism, Zionism, Holocaust and Jewish Liberation), Ecology and Veganism. Sometimes he's misunderstood because he has such a wide vision that never fits any specialist's box. But that's exactly what many love about him. Many of his posts relate to affairs from the news or the Torah Portion of the Week or are new insights that suddenly befell him. * He hopes that his words will inspire and inform, reassure the doubters but make the self-assured doubt more. He strives to bring a fresh perspective rather than bore you with the obvious. He doesn't expect his readers to agree. Rather, original minds must be disputed. In short, his main political positions are: anti-Trumpism, for Zionism, Intersectionality, non-violence, democracy, anti the fake peace process, for original-Orthodoxy, Science, Free Will, anti blaming-the-victim and for down-to-earth optimism. Read his blog how he attempts to bridge any discrepancies. He admits sometimes exaggerating to make a point, which could have him come across as nasty, while in actuality, he's quite a lovely person to interact with. He holds - how Dutch - that a strong opinion doesn't imply intolerance of other views. * His writing has been made possible by an allowance for second-generation Holocaust survivors from the Netherlands. It has been his dream since he was 38 to try to make a difference by teaching through writing. He had three times 9-out-of-10 for Dutch at his high school finals but is spending his days communicating in English and Hebrew - how ironic. G-d must have a fine sense of humor. In case you wonder - yes, he is a bit dyslectic. November 13, 2018, he published his 500th blog post with the ToI. If you're a native English speaker and wonder why you should read from people whose English is only their second language, consider the advantage of having a peek outside of your cultural bubble. * To find his earlier blog posts on a certain subject XXX, among his over 1200 ones, go to the right-top corner of the Times of Israel page, click on the search icon and search "zuiden, XXX". His second daily active less tame blog, to which one may subscribe, one may find here: or by clicking on the globe icon next to his picture on top. * To send any personal reaction to him, scroll to the top of the blog post and click Contact Me.
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