This is a nice mental tactic I kind of built for myself, which I found very useful. Hopefully, will add value to you as well.
In our careers, when things “go South”, when “s*^t hits the fan”, when it does not work, and when you eventually lose – there are usually two options:
Option No. 1 – Get Sad. Mourn. Dwell. Ice-cream on the couch, in front of the TV. You did not deserve it (you really didn’t!). It’s not fair. Why does it always happen to you. Why can’t you for once have more luck…
Sounds familiar? It feels nice there, for a second, right? You also get some empathy from your environment, and people who care for you tell you how much you are right and that you did not deserve it. Yes, you should have gotten that promotion. Yes, you should have won that start-up competition. Yes, you should have gotten into that school/program/etc…
Problem is – this leads to no action. You could be right as much as you want, but nobody out there is going to care.
Option No. 2 – Get Mad. Get angry. Fury. E-emails to people up to 2:00 a.m. You did not deserve it (you really didn’t!). It’s not fair. But – what are you going to do now?! Everyone is watching. History shall be written. Fight to change the outcome. Or, adapt and shift to another direction fast.
If you’re reading this post and a smile just came up your face – probably it’s because this sounds familiar to you. You already know this, just like me. Anger leads to action. Well, good anger leads to good action, I hope. This is such a better mental reaction than crying and dwelling. Especially since in today’s world of work – we are all business units. The office is like the market. And in the market, well, nobody cares about what there should be, only about what there is.
Anyone who knows me well, knows that I had a career crisis at some point, where I felt like I lost the opportunity to do what I was meant to do. I knew my “why”, but believed that the “what” and “how” were taken away from me. Yes, I was sad. However, once I got mad – well, my business was born. because sadness leads to Ice cream in front of the TV. Good madness leads to action.
So, next time things go wrong, get mad and go do something to shape your future the way you want it. And then “show them all.” And yourself.