Nachamu Ami: How Are We to be Comforted by Sadness

The Shabbat after Tisha B’Av is known as Shabbat Nachamu, the “Sabbath of Comforting,” named for the haftarah read from the Book of Isaiah. It is, in fact, the first of seven readings meant to comfort the Jewish nation prior to the holiday of Rosh Hashana.  

After suffering the devastating loss of both Holy Temples, after experiencing countless national tragedies, and existing for over 2,000 years in the diaspora, how are we, as a nation, supposed to move forward?

Our sages teach us that the Temple was destroyed because of sinat chinam, baseless hatred. Sadly, we in Israel understand this firsthand, having witnessed such social strife and conflict prior to October 7th. And, of course, on this Tisha B’Av, we needed no additional explanation for the meaning of churban, total devastation. Each of us mourned, grieving both the national and personal losses we experienced over the past ten months. Total devastation.

Yet, we are a resilient people. For a few shining months, our nation was privileged to unite, exhibiting a unique sense of ahavat Israel –  love for our fellow Jew, as one family, one nation –  regardless of background. This visceral connection – a true Kesher Yehudi – saw Israelis standing shoulder to shoulder, fighting our enemy on all fronts, with numerous acts of chesed and kindness.

Unfortunately, we see the cracks returning. Now more than ever, as our enemies continue to watch and wait, we must find our way back and uncover that connection that lies beneath the surface. In order to do this, each one of us must have the courage to step out of our comfort zone. We each must personally take on the mitzvah of loving our fellow Jewish by seeking out a relationship with someone who is radically different. 

By discovering this connection and common ground, we will find not only comfort but also strength. Strength to unite together after such an enormous tragedy. 

I know this is possible. I have personally witnessed so much love and connection between such radically different types of Jews, whether they study together or spend Shabbat together. For the past few months, Kesher Yehudi has hosted the families of our hostages and Nova survivors for special weekends in Jerusalem. In each case, there is an opportunity to come together in friendship, sharing pain and joy.

The bonds are there, right beneath the surface. Each of us needs to work harder to uncover them. By developing a true connection to one another as Jews, we will bring much-needed comfort and the strength to move forward together as a nation. Our unity is our ultimate power against our enemies – as well as before God. The Creator of the Universe is waiting to see that we know how to live together and that there is harmony among us – that is how we will merit divine assistance and, ultimately, redemption.