Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
Psychology, Medicine, Science, Politics, Oppression, Integrity, Philosophy, Jews

Queering the circle, scream at the rabbis!

Just when we were getting used to there being two major sexual preferences (one toward males and one toward females), we’re confronted with the idea that there are numerous genders. A quiet brain seems a thing of the past.

Luckily, a new book about gender issues comes from an author with a sense of humor who also can put things into perspective. It’s easier to learn when you’re allowed to laugh (and goof). It was interesting to see (click the link) how his attempt at gender shocking immediately flunked because of unaware white racism. No one is perfect, I guess.

Traditional Judaism seems especially interested in every Jew contributing to raising the next generation and women having a good sexual relationship and man having one sexual relationship, for personal growth and happiness of the kids. But it is especially interested in what is visible. People’s biological sex is visible but gender identity not.

However, visibility is not all that concerns it. Judaism distinguishes a good animal from a known aggressive animal. So, gender will be taken into account by Rabbis that learn that gender identity, just like sexual preference, does not fluctuate and is not chosen. They can be suppressed and discovered but that’s it.

But “experimenting” with sexual preference or gender identity explicitly will not be on the menu of Jewish Law. You need to find your role in the universe, in life, not adopt what’s others’.

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Talking of which, the flagship yeshiva of Open Orthodoxy has now refused to give the rabbi’s diploma to one of its qualified students “because” he’s gay and engage to be married to a guy. This is the most progressive wing of Orthodoxy. How can these rabbis live with themselves? Well, it’s simple — like every immoral person. They close their eyes to reality and morality and repeat the bigotry of their youth and feel very pleased with themselves even if they know nothing about gays.

Almost all gays are way too polite. I don’t plead for more underdressed pride marches. I plead for angry gays. Feminists did not accomplish anything by just being “nice.” Scream at the oppressors. Show how angry you are. And then cry in public and talk about how humiliating this is. Stop being so nice. It isn’t working! People who prefer their comfort above being halfway decent don’t deserve being spoken to politely.

Ah, you need words to get started? I  have a few for you. “How dare you delegitimize people. As a Jew. As a rabbi. After Auschwitz. How dare you!”

Of course, this is nothing compared to bad and the worst oppression of gays.

But especially compared to the openmindedness of many non-rabbinic progressive Israelis and traditional Israeli Jews all over the country and non-Jewish US Gentiles, the attitude of almost all Orthodox rabbis is a great scandal for which they will need to apologize for decades to come.

About the Author
The author is a fetal survivor of the pharmaceutical industry (DES - Diethylstilbestrol), born in 1953 to two Dutch Holocaust survivors who met in the largest concentration camp in the Netherlands, Westerbork, and holds a BA in medicine (University of Amsterdam). He taught Re-evaluation Co-counseling, became a social activist, became religious, made Aliyah, and raised three wonderful kids. He wrote an unpublished tome about Jewish Free Will. He's a vegan for 8 years now. * His most influential teachers (chronologically) are: his parents, Nico (natan) van Zuiden and Betty (beisye) Nieweg, Wim Kan, Mozart, Harvey Jackins, Marshal Rosenberg, Reb Shlomo Carlebach and lehavdiel bein chayim lechayim: Rabbi Dr. Natan Lopes Cardozo and Rav Zev Leff. * Previously, for decades, he was known to the Jerusalem Post readers as a frequent letter writer. For a couple of years he wrote hasbara for the Dutch public. His fields of attention now are varied: Psychology (including Sexuality and Abuse), Medicine (including physical immortality), Science, Politics (Israel, the US and the Netherlands, Activism - more than leftwing or rightwing, he hopes to highlight Truth), Oppression and Liberation (intersectionally, for young people, the elderly, non-Whites, women, workers, Jews, GLBTQAI, foreigners and anyone else who's dehumanized or exploited), Integrity, Philosophy, Jews (Judaism, Zionism, Holocaust and Jewish Liberation), Ecology and Veganism. Many people can't understand or like him because he has such a wide vision that he never fits any specialist's box. But that exactly what others love about him. Many of his posts relate to affairs from the news or the Torah Portion of the Week or are new insights that suddenly befell him. * He hopes that his words will inspire and inform, reassure the doubters but make the self-assured doubt more. He strives to bring a fresh perspective rather than bore you with the obvious. He doesn't expect his readers to agree. Rather, original minds must be disputed. In short, his main political positions are: anti-Trumpism, for Zionism, Intersectionality, non-violence, democracy, anti the fake peace process, for original-Orthodoxy, Science, Free Will, anti blaming-the-victim and for down-to-earth optimism. Read his blog how he attempts to bridge any discrepancies. He admits sometimes exaggerating to make a point, which could have him come across as nasty, while in actuality, he's quit a lovely person to interact with. He holds - how Dutch - that a strong opinion doesn't imply intolerance of other views. * His writing has been made possible by an allowance for second generation Holocaust survivors from the Netherlands. It has been his dream since he was 38 to try to make a difference by teaching through writing. He had three times 9-out-of-10 for Dutch at his high school finals but is spending his days communicating in English and Hebrew - how ironic. G-d must have a fine sense of humor. In case you wonder - yes, he is a bit dyslectic. November 13, 2018, he published his 500st blog post with the ToI. * He likes doing age-appropriate and age-inappropriate things and looks forward to getting to know his timeless mature out-of-the-box soul mate. * To send any personal reaction to him, scroll to the top of the blog post and click Contact Me.
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