A random ad-hoc list of fury
A policeman in the US killing a helpless older Black man in brought daylight resulted in a tsunami of indignation and raised awareness the world over and rightly so. But when Asian women are murdered by an incel, the racism is widely reported but the sexism is mostly overlooked.
Every instance of Antisemitism anywhere in the world of cyberspace results in a storm of protests by Jews and their allies and rightly so. But, when women and transwomen are trashed, the world yawns, sighs, and continues as if nothing happened.
Yes, most men love their mothers, sisters, wives, and daughters. But they fail to see the connection. BTW: ‘Love’ is not feeling warm about someone. That’s liking to feel nice yourself. True love is to make the other feel loved.
Being nice to women is not enough as an act against sexism. Sexism kills. It intimidates and kills emotionally, life-long. Being nice is not enough.
Sexism is everywhere. Structurally, girls and women are treated as second-class all the time. Men shamelessly parade their elevated egos all the time.
Rape by strangers or at work is terrible. But most sexual intimidation or molestation is by acquaintances and at home. But all of that is just the tip of the iceberg. The whole mass is seeing and treating women as requisites in the lives of men, tools to use, services to order, beauty for decoration.
Not only are women treated as second-class; their oppression is treated as unimportant too.
The Dutch PM was just made aware that he doesn’t let women finish their sentences. He was not aware of that. But his three female ministers were.
As soon as an illness kills a lot of men, funds will be found. But if it kills a lot of women, well, we all need to die one day.
Professions dominated by women that attract male colleagues, suddenly see their salaries go up.
Girls are still told that they’re too weak (or stupid) compared to boys.
The number of women in politics is ridiculously low. Political parties that ban women to be elected are still tolerated in democracies.
Some 99% of all wealth in the world is earned by men while 90% of the work is done by women, often without pay or recognition.
If men could get pregnant, pregnancy would be considered 3.5 jobs (thrice 8 hours per day, 7 days a week) and be paid for. In general, having and raising children has been women’s work and at best, a man’s hobby.
The most successful ‘alternative’ family is a single mother but it’s seen as an inherent failure.
Yes, many women are now ‘allowed’ to be part of the workforce. But sexism makes that often, they are now expected to do that and still do most of the household chores and be with the kids while he makes ‘his’ carrier — to dump her when he gets older and wants someone young.
If a woman or girl stands her ground she’s a bitch and if she gives in she’s a push-over. Men who ‘like strong women’ typically let them serve them, instead of actively supporting their leadership.
If women collectively would have been as lazy as most men, we would have died out millennia ago.
Whites are often so eager to point out sexism in other cultures. Middle-class people can’t wait to talk about working-class sexism. While they all have plenty of sexism in their own house to take care of.
Women’s clothing is often still sexist. Too revealing. Not enough pockets. Shoes that give no stability or platform to use strength. Bras that are plainly uncomfortable.
Almost all violence in the world (including causing wars) is perpetrated by men but that doesn’t hurt their egos. Still, you would think that most police would be women good at dissolving tensions but they are not.
We should all feel engaged at the idea that women and girls are not safe to walk the street or be home with a totalitarian family member.
Sexism is not natural. It is not God-given. It is manmade (!) misery that must stop. And the first step is not to get used to it. And to ask girls and women what they notice and think, and to listen and shut up.
True male pride is being proud of being an active supporter of women — not because women are weak but because we don’t want to be agents of their oppression and we recognize: we are making the mess.
A great question to ask is: “What can I do today to make your life more wonderful.” And to keep asking it until you got an answer.
Sometimes, a woman is sick and tired of facing sexism and wants to ignore it: I’m self-made and I let no one oppress me. That’s nice but that cannot undo institutionalized mistreatment of women or sexism in men’s heads. Also, so doesn’t need to clean up that mess. That’s the work of men (once they began to listen to women).
Some progress has been made. But, the idea that sexism is not such a problem anymore shows how much work is still needed. It’s nothing to be proud of.