Sara T. Friedman

The Magic of the Shelters

There is something strangely magical about the shelters in Israel. While “magical” is not the word you expect to use when you’re being jolted awake at 3:17 a.m. by a siren that feels personally offended by your sleep cycle, here we all are. Hair a mess, one sock, in flip flops. Someone clutching a phone charger like it’s oxygen, another wrapped in a towel (because if you haven’t been in the shower during a siren, are you really Israeli?!).
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This is not our finest hour visually, emotionally, or otherwise. Still, within minutes of piling into a concrete room, something shifts.

No one cares what you do, where you pray, or how you vote. Pajamas with Minnie Mouse? Completely acceptable. In the shelter, you are simply one of us.

And then, almost instinctively, we become softer, better versions of ourselves.

Someone becomes the unofficial “door person,” holding it open for the latecomers sprinting in from the street. People shuffle, squeeze, rearrange as if we’re hosting a slightly chaotic, underground Shabbat dinner. A teenager who wouldn’t make eye contact above ground is suddenly helping an older woman find a place to sit. Someone hands out snacks like a flight attendant on a very delayed, very low-budget airline. Inevitably, someone tries to lighten the mood with a joke that’s just inappropriate enough to make everyone laugh a little harder than necessary.

Because somehow, we laugh.

Not because anything is funny, but because it’s how we survive the absurdity, the exhaustion, the adrenaline, the fact that we’re all awake at an hour meant for newborns and insomniacs.

And in those moments, something deeper happens. It feels like stepping back in time to a version of ourselves that remembers how to simply be human. Before the noise, before the divisions. Just people, looking out for each other.

No one would choose this. The broken sleep, the constant interruptions and fear. But within it, there is something unexpectedly beautiful. You don’t just find protection from what’s outside. You find each other.

About the Author
Sara Friedman is an accomplished executive with over 25 years of leadership experience at the intersection of politics, business, philanthropy, and Jewish organizations. She is recognized for her strategic vision and ability to build broad coalitions in both nonprofit and business settings. Sara is a passionate advocate in the fight against antisemitism, helping to drive initiatives that engage governments, international institutions, and private sector stakeholders to create meaningful change. Born in Brooklyn, NY, and raised in Rockland County within an ultra-Orthodox family, Sara remains deeply connected to her roots. She has dedicated her career to fostering dialogue, empowering young leaders, and advancing organizational impact.
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