My teachers were more effective and nicer except for in one area
I was so lucky to learn from some of the greatest Souls of the previous century. Harvey Jackings, Marshall Rosenberg, and Reb Shlomo Carlebach.
Three differences between these illustrious three and me are: they built imperia, schools with countless followers, their ideas fill many books, and they were friendly, embracing everyone, and optimistic; I don’t. Why?
I’m sorry I’m not as successful as they were and that I can’t contribute as much as they did. (But my life is just starting, so let’s see what I still can do!) But I can’t ignore what I learned the hard way: four things that must be done that have no friendly substitute:
Lies must be challenged; truth must be told. Too much fake news.
Con artists must be cornered and neutralized. Otherwise, they kill.
We must expose those who feign closeness to manipulate people.
Democracy must be saved against people who use it to kill it.
And so, I’m not so nice, I don’t embrace everyone, and I’m mostly critical.
It’s much nicer to encourage people about love than warn them about hatred, to discuss truth than expose greed, lies, theft, and exploitation.
But I only carry in the bitter medicine Reality and Truth dictate us to take.
I apologize to my teachers. This dark corner of reality, you didn’t really look at too much. And maybe you were right. There was already so much negativity; someone had to bring the light. But the result was that liars and pretenders, fakers and flatterers, manipulators and self-centered fakes surrounded you, had free rein, and you almost never noticed. It also meant your followers were left inept there, where liars reign supreme: in politics.
Sometimes you briefly said something about these outliars (pun intended). Harvey, a Communist turned humanist therapist, did admit that a Russian dictator should not have political power. Reb Shlomo, a religious humanist happy hippy supporter of everyone, mocked a Jew for Jesus and angerly opposed giving away even one meter from our tiny Israel to non-Jews. Marshall stressed that non-violence means valuing needs, not being nice.
I ask for your encouragement for me to clean out the corners of your holy work. You did already most of what was needed, but now, we need to stop powerholics from ruining your legacies. These are only a small minority among your followers, but one rotten apple can spoil the whole lot.
Your zeal to save everyone stays a great principle, especially when people are set up against each other as never before. But, we also need to make temporary exceptions for people who parasitize on the naïve majority.
Thank you for your leadership. I hope that some of my work will strengthen and vindicate some of what you tried to accomplish.
About the Author
MM is a prolific and creative writer and thinker, an almost daily blog contributor to the Times of Israel, and previously, for decades, he was known to the Jerusalem Post readers as a frequent letter writer. He often makes his readers laugh, mad, or assume he's nuts—close to perfect blogging. He's proud that his analytical short comments are removed both from left-wing and right-wing news sites. *
As a frontier thinker, he sees things many don't yet. He's half a prophet. Half. Let's not exaggerate. He doesn't believe that people observe and think in a vacuum. He, therefore, wanted a broad bio that readers interested can track a bit about what (lack of) backgrounds, experiences, and education contribute to his visions. *
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Like most of his readers, he believes in being friendly, respectful, and loyal. Yet, if you think those are his absolute top priorities, you might end up disappointed. His first loyalty is to the truth. He will try to stay within the limits of democratic and Jewish law, but he won't lie to support opinions or people who don't deserve that. He admits that he sometimes exaggerates to make a point, which could have him come across as nasty, while in actuality, he's quite a lovely person to interact with. He holds - how Dutch - that a strong opinion doesn't imply intolerance of other views. *
Sometimes he's misunderstood because his wide and diverse field of vision seldomly fits any specialist's box. But that's exactly what some love about him. He has written a lot about Psychology (including Sexuality and Abuse), Medicine (including physical immortality), Science (including basic statistics), Politics (Israel, the US, and the Netherlands, Activism), Oppression and Liberation (intersectionally, for young people, the elderly, non-Whites, women, workers, Jews, LGBTQIA+, foreigners and anyone else who's dehumanized or exploited), Integrity, Philosophy, Jews (Judaism, Zionism, Holocaust, and Jewish Liberation), the Climate Crisis, Ecology and Veganism, Affairs from the news, or the Torah Portion of the Week, or new insights that suddenly befell him. *
His most influential teachers (chronologically) are his parents, Nico (natan) van Zuiden and Betty (beisye) Nieweg, Wim Kan, Mozart, Harvey Jackins, Marshal Rosenberg, Reb Shlomo Carlebach, and, lehavdil bein chayim lechayim, Rabbi Dr. Natan Lopes Cardozo, Rav Zev Leff, and Rav Meir Lubin. *
One of his rabbis calls him Mr. Innovation [Ish haChidushim]. Yet, his originalities seem to root deeply in traditional Judaism, though they may grow in unexpected directions. In fact, he claims he's modernizing nothing. Rather, mainly basing himself on the basic Hebrew Torah text, he tries to rediscover classical Jewish thought almost lost in thousands of years of stifling Gentile domination and Jewish assimilation. (He pleads for a close reading of the Torah instead of going by rough assumptions of what it would probably mean and before fleeing to Commentaries.) This, in all aspects of life, but prominently in the areas of Free Will, Activism, Homosexuality for men, and Redemption. *
He hopes that his words will inspire and inform, and disturb the comfortable and comfort the disturbed. He aims to bring a fresh perspective rather than harp on the obvious and familiar. He loves to write encyclopedic overviews. He doesn't expect his readers to agree. Rather, original minds should be disputed. In short, his main political positions are among others: anti-Trumpism, anti-elitism, anti-bigotry and supremacy, for Zionism, Intersectionality, and non-violence, anti those who abuse democratic liberties, anti the fake ME peace process, for original-Orthodoxy, pro-Science, pro-Free Will, anti-blaming-the-victim, and for down-to-earth, classical optimism, and happiness. *
He is a fetal survivor of the pharmaceutical industry (https://diethylstilbestrol.co.uk/studies/des-and-psychological-health/), born in 1953 to parents who were Dutch-Jewish Holocaust survivors who met in the largest concentration camp in the Netherlands, Westerbork. He grew up a humble listener. It took him decades to become a speaker too. Bullies and con artists almost instantaneously envy and hate him. *
He holds a BA in medicine (University of Amsterdam) – is half a doctor. He practices Re-evaluation Co-counseling since 1977, is not an official teacher anymore, and became a friendly, empowering therapist. He became a social activist, became religious, made Aliyah, and raised three wonderful kids non-violently. For a couple of years, he was active in hasbara to the Dutch-speaking public. He wrote an unpublished tome about Jewish Free Will. He's being a strict vegan since 2008. He's an Orthodox Jew but not a rabbi. He lives with his library in Jerusalem. Feel free to contact him. *
His writing has been made possible by a (second-generation) Holocaust survivors' allowance from the Netherlands. It has been his dream since he was 38 to try to make a difference by teaching through writing. He had three times 9-out-of-10 for Dutch at his high school finals but is spending his days communicating in English and Hebrew - how ironic. G-d must have a fine sense of humor. In case you wonder - yes, he is a bit dyslectic. If you're a native English speaker and wonder why you should read from people whose English is only their second language, consider the advantage of having an original peek outside of your cultural bubble. *
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