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The Orthodox Rabbis promote forbidden homosexuality

Only with Straight men, men are forbidden to have homosexual intercourse

Natural Relational Homosexuality

For those who don’t read Hebrew, the Torah says that one (implied: men) should not have intercourse with a man instead of with a woman. To make clear that the last stipulation is noticed, it also forbids intercourse with an animal. It didn’t add: As with a human. Clearly, the former is a forbidden activity for Straight men only. For them, homosexuality is unnatural. As the Talmud explains literally: It would make them leave their wives and kids. Maimonides is very clear that such a thing was not done among Jews. The Rabbis are also very certain that human nature won’t change. That’s how the ‘old’ laws are still valid. So, no one can say that in Maimonides’ days there were no homosexual Jews—who need a man to become one flesh. Rather, heterosexual Jews would not go the way of the Greeks and other Gentiles. Even the leading rabbis of their generations, Chief Rabbi Kook of Palestine and Reb Moshe Feinstein admitted that there seem to be men for whom homosexuality wasn’t an unnatural lure but an innate need.

A couple of the nice things of Jewish Law are that the incredibly wise Torah text can’t be changed, no matter how much it may scare us. That a sloppy reading can always be challenged. That Judaism holds that no Jewish Belief can contradict Reality. That G^d’s Ways may be hard to predict, but that certainly, He expects humans to be logical, kind, and proactive for good.

Not just the Rabbis are confused. Standard Psychology no longer acknowledges sexual orientation (or gender identity). All is fluid and depends on biological and societal influences. You are what you do, how you feel, and what you wish. No difference between recreational and relational sex. The same nonsense as philosophers denying Free Will. So, no Rabbi should blindly trust all therapists, including the honest ones.

Persecuting the Innocent

However, for the last half a century, after the Muslim and Christian model, Orthodox Rabbis have been fulminating against homosexuals. They were not OK. As if it is ever OK, possible, or even allowed for anyone to forgo our biological needs forever. (RC Church history shows the results.)

So, innocent Gay Jewish men are largely still in hiding. They’ve committed suicide, they’ve left Judaism, lost their good names, families, friends, communities, and jobs, and they’ve seen their lives turned into ruins. But mostly, they have been unable to find a spouse to cling to and raise children with. There are no Jewish matchmakers for same-sex partners.

The result left many Gay Jewish men without a life partner, unattached, hooked to porn, loose sexual encounters, and masturbation, and worst of all, with a sex obsession. Lives in ruin for no reason at all. Holy people persecuted for being human. Not so different from the ancient Chinese abusive custom of breaking and tightly binding the feet of young girls, or the forcing of unnatural and debilitating tiny waists in Victorian England.

Promoting Straight Men to Sin

Worse than these Rabbis misread Scripture and had no common sense is that their wives also didn’t interfere, and they talk like Gentile preachers.

But this is more than oppressing the innocent. This is exactly what Straight men ‘need’ to commit this recreational capital sin for them: a large pool of sex-hungry submissive unattached men. These Straights don’t hope for a relationship. They just want sex. Preferably, each day with someone else.

And this is how the Orthodox Rabbis maintain a problem that, according to Maimonides, never was: a large percentage of heterosexual Jewish men having sexual intercourse with men while blaming innocent homosexuals.

Change is Long Overdue

It’s high time to change this. If only, to redeem all the great Rabbis who went to their graves in the past 50 years without objecting against this.

Other Monotheists too need to learn from Jews what the Torah really says. They even kill Gays. Judaism doesn’t do mutual rights and entitlements. Rather, it promotes mutual responsibilities. More than that Jewish men are “entitled” to their natural need for a sexual partner, they must seek one and cling to him to not waste their G^d-given life. Gay men are not excluded. We need lots of kosher same-sex providing matchmakers. It’s high time to have Gay stand for happy. And to block Straight men from finding so many sex-hungry Gay men to serve their unLawful wishes.

(Many preachers say that Gays must be faulty because they’re unhappy. Not so different from Christians who mass murdered us and then, in the greatest chutzpa, said that the massacres proved that G^d had left us.)

Gay Jewish men have done their share of change. They tried therapy—it didn’t work. Gay men need a man to fight off existential loneliness, more than for sex. This shows that sexual preference is neurobiologically engraved in the brain, and just like gender identity and handiness can’t be changed. They tried walking out. It didn’t work. They showed that they are better congregants, friends, partners, fathers, and rabbis—no change.

They cried buckets full, sweet-talked and begged the Rabbis—to no avail. I hold that Gays and their Allies need to speak up with a firmness even the most radical feminists have never needed. Fifty years of niceness did not help. Maybe, only when Gays show that chutzpah, enough Rabbis will too.

Redemption in the Balance

How can we hope to work for Redemption while we still oppress 5 percent of our own, one million Jews?! Ah, it would make you feel uncomfortable? Well, it’s only fair that now, heterosexuals will feel uncomfortable, for a change.

I look forward to when I don’t need to call the Rabbis to order anymore. For me, it is enough reward when no young Gay commits suicide anymore.

Disclaimers: I too have given ‘reparative therapy.’ Only, I didn’t brainwash, scare, or hurt my clients. And I stopped as soon as it became clear that it set Gay men up for Straight marriages that can’t last and be real for them.

I hope you noticed I didn’t talk about women. That’s for several reasons. 1. Females are not just a subspecies of males. They deserve their own texts. 2. Especially, because their sexuality is often more nuanced. Without nuances, the stuff is complicated enough for most people. 3. My hunch is that when the Rabbis make peace with Gays, Lesbians will be out of trouble too.

But, let me grab this chance to acknowledge what Lesbians have done for Gay men when no one wanted to know them, when they were dying from AIDS by the thousands, demented and sick. No ministers, rabbis, no family, government, or health care cared. Lesbian volunteers nursed many of them with great humility and unbelievable empathy, until these, mostly young beautiful people turned ugly, dropped dead. Righteous among the nations.

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