Mark Wildes

The Real Choice: A Shavuot Message

Our generation is more torn on social issues than ever before. Gender, gun control, free speech and now abortion. Conservatives and liberals, democrats and republicans have never been further apart on these core matters.
To me, the real choice though is not whether we lean left or right on these issues – whether we wish to protect or uproot Roe versus Wade – but ultimately what is the basis for the opinions we have? What informs our attitude to these value-laden questions? The political party to which we belong? The ideology our professors taught us in college? Or maybe it’s the strong opinions held by our parents or our favorite podcast influencers? Since these questions all touch on ethics and some on metaphysical issues, ie- when does life begin or what are the fundamental differences between the makeup of men and women – shouldn’t a system of ethics and values be consulted? This is, of course, where our Judaism comes in. The Torah, upon which all Jewish tradition is based, is not to be consulted simply on ritual matters – Shabbat, Prayer, Circumcision etc., but also on gender issues or what status a fetus in utero possesses.
Judaism’s stance on these important questions is by no means clear. Our religious tradition often contains many opinions and does not always offer black-and-white answers to these matters – but in the end, it most certainly has what to say. Our generation would do well to consult the most tried and true body of spiritual literature for guidance on these and other moral issues.
This is precisely why we at MJE have chosen to dedicate this year’s all-night Shavuot program to delve into the Torah’s unique perspective on abortion and gender issues. In lieu of the recent tumult on Roe vs. Wade, I will address the much-misunderstood Torah perspective (really multiples perspectives) on Abortion and our Scholar-in-Residence Rabbi David Forman (Founder of Aleph Beta)  will focus his talks on Gender Issues.
I am not advocating we ignore what everyone around us is saying on these important questions. As the Jewish Sages famously teach: “Who is a wise man, someone who learns from all people” (Ethics of Our Fathers, 4:1). At the same time, for us Jews not to be educated as to what our own tradition has to say about these core issues of identity, is a missed opportunity, to say the least. Shavuot after all celebrates that moment in history when God bestowed upon us His greatest gift: values and ethics – tools for living our best lives. Shouldn’t we, at least, know what they are?
About the Author
Rabbi Mark Wildes, otherwise known as the Millennial Rabbi, founded the Manhattan Jewish Experience (MJE), a successful Jewish outreach and educational program that has reconnected thousands of unaffiliated 20’s/30’s with Jewish life and facilitated 397 marriages. He is the author of Beyond the Instant: Jewish Wisdom for Lasting Happiness in a Fast-Paced Social Media World (Skyhorse Publishing, 2018), The 40 Day Challenge: Daily Jewish Insights to Prepare for the High Holidays (Kodesh Press) and his latest: The Jewish Experience: Discovering the Soul of Jewish Thought and Practice (Koren Publishers). Rabbi Wildes earned a BA in Psychology as well as Rabbinic Ordination from Yeshiva University, a Law Degree from Cardozo School of Law, and a Master’s in International Affairs from Columbia University. Rabbi Mark also teaches an outreach seminar at Yeshiva University’s rabbinical school, training future leaders. He and his wife Jill live on the Upper West Side of Manhattan. They have four children, two who live in Israel, and one serving in the IDF.
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