Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
Psychology, Medicine, Science, Politics, Oppression, Integrity, Philosophy, Jews

Understanding con artists

How can a US president and other people who definitely know better say that the new coronavirus is not so dangerous while it now seems 20 times more deadly than the flue? (The actual overall international mortality stands in fact at 34 times.) Does he think that we’ll never find out that he lies to cover-up his failure in protecting the American public?

How does a Piozzi scheme embezzler think that he’ll get away with his theft? One day the whole world will find out what he did, no? Maybe only after his death, but it’ll surely become clear. How does he cover for that?

Why does a deeply dishonest person try to get married to a deeply honest person? Does s/he really think it’ll stay hidden and not end the marriage?

This is all different from the bank robber who thinks he will commit the perfect crime that no one will ever trace back to him. Such things happen. Though very rarely. Most people with such assumptions end up in jail. But theoretically, it would be possible. But the above three examples each end in disaster, guaranteed. So what is such a con artist thinking about that?

I’ve thought about this question a lot. The only answer I was able to come up with is: They don’t think about that. They don’t consider what they will do when their deceit is revealed. Not because they can’t think of that. Not because they are too dumb or stressed. No, they simply don’t care.

When the accusations come in like a tidal wave and the cops show up with handcuffs they’ll wing something like: Terrible slander. Or whatever. It’s not that they don’t know the difference between true and false. My proof? When you lie to them or insult them, they’re furious.

The basics are that such a person does not have a conscience like most people have. And they are so good at hurting others because most people cannot imagine that someone deliberately would hurt others, steal, cause death even without any second thought or a grain of remorse.

We can imagine that someone would say a falsehood because we are familiar with that. Or would steal something. But causing the death of many others just for greed or other vain reasons, that we can’t imagine.

And that’s how con artists make their (unsuspecting) ‘friends’ and a living. Hiding their lies in plain sight, they profit from the relative innocence of most people who would assume that maybe he’s covering up because he feels ashamed or is too stubborn to admit an inadvertent mistake.

No, they deeply damage without guilt because they simply don’t care.

I don’t mean regular carefree or careless. Couldn’t care less about what most people would not even contemplate doing. Have total disdain for nice and feeling people (us). (But are often fascinated by them so marry them. But that could be because they are control freaks too.) But do respect fellow con people and dictators. Get out while they don’t watch!

I don’t mean the strategic liar (professional politician, lawyer). I mean people who lie by default. Sharing truths empowers people — that’s the last thing they want. They confabulate and confuse continuously.

Learn to spot the ruthless con artist and better believe what you see. And I don’t mean the habitual white-liar or chronically dishonest person. I mean the ruthless con artist who has no mercy and no conscience. Once you see one, you recognize all the others. They’re all made of the same cloth. And then, don’t become cynical about the human race. They’re still exceptions.

About the Author
MM is a prolific and creative writer and thinker, a daily blog contributor to the TOI. He is a fetal survivor of the pharmaceutical industry (, born in 1953 to two Dutch survivors who met in the largest concentration camp in the Netherlands, Westerbork, and holds a BA in medicine (University of Amsterdam). He taught Re-evaluation Co-counseling, became a social activist, became religious, made Aliyah, and raised three wonderful kids. He wrote an unpublished tome about Jewish Free Will. He's a strict vegan since 2008. He's an Orthodox Jew but not a rabbi. * His most influential teachers (chronologically) are: his parents, Nico (natan) van Zuiden and Betty (beisye) Nieweg, Wim Kan, Mozart, Harvey Jackins, Marshal Rosenberg, Reb Shlomo Carlebach and lehavdiel bein chayim lechayim: Rabbi Dr. Natan Lopes Cardozo, Rav Zev Leff and Rav Meir Lubin. * Previously, for decades, he was known to the Jerusalem Post readers as a frequent letter writer. For a couple of years he wrote hasbara for the Dutch public. His fields of attention now are varied: Psychology (including Sexuality and Abuse), Medicine (including physical immortality), Science (statistics), Politics (Israel, the US and the Netherlands, Activism - more than leftwing or rightwing, he hopes to highlight Truth), Oppression and Liberation (intersectionally, for young people, the elderly, non-Whites, women, workers, Jews, GLBTQAI, foreigners and anyone else who's dehumanized or exploited), Integrity, Philosophy, Jews (Judaism, Zionism, Holocaust and Jewish Liberation), Ecology and Veganism. Sometimes he's misunderstood because he has such a wide vision that never fits any specialist's box. But that's exactly what many love about him. Many of his posts relate to affairs from the news or the Torah Portion of the Week or are new insights that suddenly befell him. * He hopes that his words will inspire and inform, reassure the doubters but make the self-assured doubt more. He strives to bring a fresh perspective rather than bore you with the obvious. He doesn't expect his readers to agree. Rather, original minds must be disputed. In short, his main political positions are: anti-Trumpism, for Zionism, Intersectionality, non-violence, democracy, anti the fake peace process, for original-Orthodoxy, Science, Free Will, anti blaming-the-victim and for down-to-earth optimism. Read his blog how he attempts to bridge any discrepancies. He admits sometimes exaggerating to make a point, which could have him come across as nasty, while in actuality, he's quit a lovely person to interact with. He holds - how Dutch - that a strong opinion doesn't imply intolerance of other views. * His writing has been made possible by an allowance for second generation Holocaust survivors from the Netherlands. It has been his dream since he was 38 to try to make a difference by teaching through writing. He had three times 9-out-of-10 for Dutch at his high school finals but is spending his days communicating in English and Hebrew - how ironic. G-d must have a fine sense of humor. In case you wonder - yes, he is a bit dyslectic. November 13, 2018, he published his 500st blog post with the ToI. If you're a native English speaker and wonder why you should read from people whose English is only their second language, consider the advantage of having a peek outside of your cultural bubble. * NEW: To see other blog posts by him, his overspill blog you can reach by clicking on the Website icon next to his picture at the head of every post. There you may find precursors to later TOI blog posts, addition or corrections of published TOI blog posts, blog posts the TOI will not carry and some thoughts that are too short to be a TOI blog post. Also, the TOI only allows for one blog post per blogger per 24 hours. Sometimes, he has more to say than that. * To send any personal reaction to him, scroll to the top of the blog post and click Contact Me.
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