Karolyn Benger

We are all Jews

Friday afternoon, before I took in Shabbat, I engaged in a discussion with a vocal critic of the Women of the Wall movement. I challenged her statements that they are creating a disturbance at the Kotel, that they are violating halacha, and that should not be allowed to pray.

Motzei Shabbat, I was saddened to see that the discussion and denouement of Women of the Wall continued. While a shul had been desecrated during Shabbat services, members of our community chose to be divisive. When Jews were in the hospital healing from bullet wounds other Jews were debasing each other. As families sit shiva for their loved ones our broader family decried their form of religious practice.

Let me be clear: Jews were killed because they were Jews. Because they do not pray in the way the shooter wants.

How can we critique another Jew’s prayer now of all times?

Anti-Semites do not care if women read from the sefer Torah.

A neo-nazi is not concerned whether the mechitza is halachic.

And the white supremacists do not argue about kevod tzibbur.

My fellow Jews, if never before then now, during this time of tragedy, accept of all forms of Jewish prayer. Egalitarian, Orthodox, Reform, Conservative, Reconstructionist, Humanists, Jewish-Buddhist… I beg you. We must stand together.

If ever there was a time for our community to unite it is now.

If I am not for myself, who is for me?

About the Author
Karolyn Benger is a Rabbinical student at Yeshivah Maharat (2026) and former Executive Director of the Jewish Community Relations Council in Phoenix. Karolyn has taught Middle East Politics at Emory University, Georgia Tech, and Emerson College. She was a board member of the Arizona Interfaith Movement, a member of the Valley Interfaith Project’s 3rd Monseigneur Ryle Public Policy Faith Leader Institute, and a mentor in the Women’s Leadership Institute. She has served on the Human Relations Commission for the city of Phoenix and Arizona Jewish Life magazine named her among the Top 10 change makers for Tikkun Olam. Her writings can be found in the Arizona Republic, eJewish Philanthropy, Blue Avocado, The Times of Israel, and Ritualwell.
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