Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
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Women’s rights are human rights. Women’s oppression kills, as all the others do.

As long as women are oppressed, every kid will learn from its mom to be a victim or victimizer

Women are revolting. These are ordinary women, not ‘fanatics.’

● In Iran, women rise up whole-scale against being kept small and killed. The police really fire bullets at the protesters and already killed dozens.

● In the USA, women are going to the polls in unprecedented numbers to say that they won’t have any woman going for an illegal abortion and die.

Time for a rant. Hopefully, it will inspire.

Feminism has only gone so far. The glass ceiling is still keeping women second-class. So many girls/women are abused, raped, and killed by men.

Men conspire to keep each other in power. Conspire with others to get women up-front. More liberation will hardly happen spontaneously.

Equal opportunity, equal pay, and jointly sharing of household chores all have been poorly implemented. A handful of leading women have been paraded around just like men in the ‘American dream’ when a few rare ones went from newspaper boy to billionaire. All the hundreds of millions who are not making a decent living then only have themselves to blame?

Women are still supposed to take care of all the kids and men around them and make them feel good.

So many women are sick and tired of men calling their self-serving (pun intended), hypocritical ‘family norms’ decent and conservative.

So many men are so oppressive to women that those who eventually kill their partner are often not recognized as being so special.

Some men truly honor their wives, but generally, they are wimps and don’t come together to further feminism beyond their houses.

Yes, there are terrible women. I’ve met my unfair share of them. Violent women, thieves, crushing egos. But, still, and in any case, sexism must stop. But, keep these terrible women from hijacking general women’s lib.

Instead of focusing on the big scandals, more focus must be on rejecting ‘cute’ sexism. That women must smile, look good, pamper men, make men feel good. That equality is reached. That women are too powerful or scary already. That lying against a woman doesn’t count. That men naturally cheat. That women cannot be as smart, strong, or important as men. That a man’s way is obviously superior to a woman’s way. This is every day everywhere. But, it must go. Enough is enough, and too much is plenty.

The only power in any oppression is the tolerance and patience of the oppressed. (This can only be used to encourage, not to blame.)

Women must empathize from their second-class position with how other oppressed feel and become allies in their struggles. (Don’t exclude the Jews since they often are targeted when oppressed groups get together.)

Women should honor and care about men but not instead of themselves.

Judaism holds that women should rule the house and be supported and honored for that. Modernity holds that women can do any job she wants. There is no reason not to combine these two principles.

No woman should settle for less than absolutely everything.

Women can combine humility and self-confidence. That should help.

There is nothing wrong with the tremendous service to humanity that women have given or to being humble about what you do. What’s wrong is when the service is not acknowledged and the humility is enforced.

I’m not charmed by men outside making all the right statements but who turn into a dictator and exploiter inside as soon as the front door closes.

Women should write down the unpaid work they do every day and what they would be paid for that in a fair society. The cooking, childcare, sexual availability, cleaning, washing, counseling/listening, shopping, running an incubator, planning, secretary services, etc. And they do all of this for free?

Surely, Women’s Lib, Gay Lib, anti-racism, solidarity with Jews, protection of the planet, workers’ rights, etc., children’s rights, etc. have seen progress. But, the improvements have often been temporary, local, and limited. If you think the work is mainly done, you have no idea.

Don’t blame yourself or other women for how much you have believed and internalize the sexism. Don’t blame the victim. It’s helpful nor fair. Honor moody women. They stopped people pleasing, and give hope.

Just being nice, positive, and timid is not enough. Only being angry is a nice, energetic start but won’t give permanent results. Use your brains. You have the best ones around. They will tell you when to be bold, and when meek; when to share your pain, and when your vision and hope, etc. It’s easier to enlist most people with positive goals than present scandals.

Do you know where the 9-feet-tall gray female grizzly bear sleeps? Anywhere she wants!

Stop people pleasing. Learn to say no. Practice. Say it friendly, if you must.

There have always been men who supported women, no questions asked. Train enough men around you to do exactly that. You’re a good teacher.

It’s understandable to feel hopeless and powerful. But together with so many others, you can do anything.

Call out ‘religious’ bigotry.

Learn about the great, strong, and life-saving leadership of women in oppressed groups: Jews, working-class, Blacks in the US, etc.

Stop the world ‘complot’ against feelings and tears. Everyone will profit.

It’s not good to be alone, but that is only if it’s not with an oppressor. Don’t compromise on a guy you’re to be with. You don’t need a guy to have sex, to have kids, or to raise them well.

You’ll be called Lesbians, Communists, crazy, etc. Build good relationships with those women. Be good allies to others. Answer: It’s called women.

No, you’re not too old, young, poor, wealthy, tired, bad at …, etc.

Don’t justify the indefensible. Don’t settle for the unacceptable.

Your male family members, friends, colleagues, and partners don’t need to be perfect. No one is. But, they must be happy to learn how to be a good ally. And they need your permission to tell you how hard it is; they have plenty of men around to share that with; you have enough on your plate.

You might be in an oppressor position with some men in your life. Learn how to be their allies. Men are not oppressed as men but can be as working class, Black, etc. And all men were oppressed as male kids.

Show the oppression wrong. Were you always called stupid? Do smart things. Were you told you had no taste? Go make art. Were you always ridiculed for not knowing? Talk about everything you know. Were you always told you don’t matter? Make a difference everywhere. Were you always told you’re unimportant? Lead everywhere. Were you always told that you have no self-confidence? Fake it till you make it. Were you told that you were ugly? Dress yourself as if you were Miss Universe. Were you always criticized? Surround yourself with people who compliment you.

Equality must come by first promoting women until equality is effectuated.

So often, girls and women have needed to beat around the bush because it was dangerous to be frank. Reclaim being honest (only) when it’s safe.

No stronger an enemy than an idea whose time has come.

Act locally, think globally.

About the Author
MM is a prolific and creative writer and thinker, previously a daily blog contributor to the TOI. He often makes his readers laugh, mad, or assume he's nuts—close to perfect blogging. He's proud that his analytical short comments are removed both from left-wing and right-wing news sites. None of his content is generated by the new bore on the block, AI. * As a frontier thinker, he sees things many don't yet. He's half a prophet. Half. Let's not exaggerate. Or not at all because he doesn't claim G^d talks to him. He gives him good ideas—that's all. MM doesn't believe that people observe and think in a vacuum. He, therefore, wanted a broad bio that readers interested can track a bit what (lack of) backgrounds, experiences, and educations contribute to his visions. * This year, he will prioritize getting his unpublished books published rather than just blog posts. Next year, he hopes to focus on activism against human extinction. To find less-recent posts on a subject XXX among his over 2000 archived ones, go to the right-top corner of a Times of Israel page, click on the search icon and search "zuiden, XXX". One can find a second, wilder blog, to which one may subscribe too, here: or by clicking on the globe icon next to his picture on top. * Like most of his readers, he believes in being friendly, respectful, and loyal. However, if you think those are his absolute top priorities, you might end up disappointed. His first loyalty is to the truth. He will try to stay within the limits of democratic and Jewish law, but he won't lie to support opinions or people when don't deserve that. (Yet, we all make honest mistakes, which is just fine and does not justify losing support.) He admits that he sometimes exaggerates to make a point, which could have him come across as nasty, while in actuality, he's quite a lovely person to interact with. He holds - how Dutch - that a strong opinion doesn't imply intolerance of other views. * Sometimes he's misunderstood because his wide and diverse field of vision seldomly fits any specialist's box. But that's exactly what some love about him. He has written a lot about Psychology (including Sexuality and Abuse), Medicine (including physical immortality), Science (including basic statistics), Politics (Israel, the US, and the Netherlands, Activism - more than leftwing or rightwing, he hopes to highlight reality), Oppression and Liberation (intersectionally, for young people, the elderly, non-Whites, women, workers, Jews, LGBTQIA+, foreigners and anyone else who's dehumanized or exploited), Integrity, Philosophy, Jews (Judaism, Zionism, Holocaust and Jewish Liberation), the Climate Crisis, Ecology and Veganism, Affairs from the news, or the Torah Portion of the Week, or new insights that suddenly befell him. * Chronologically, his most influential teachers are his parents, Nico (natan) van Zuiden and Betty (beisye) Nieweg, Wim Kan, Mozart, Harvey Jackins, Marshal Rosenberg, Reb Shlomo Carlebach, and, lehavdil bein chayim lechayim, Rabbi Dr. Natan Lopes Cardozo, Rav Zev Leff, and Rav Meir Lubin. This short list doesn't mean to disrespect others who taught him a lot or a little. One of his rabbis calls him Mr. Innovation [Ish haChidushim]. Yet, his originalities seem to root deeply in traditional Judaism, though they may grow in unexpected directions. In fact, he claims he's modernizing nothing. Rather, mainly basing himself on the basic Hebrew Torah text, he tries to rediscover classical Jewish thought almost lost in thousands of years of stifling Gentile domination and Jewish assimilation. (He pleads for a close reading of the Torah instead of going by rough assumptions of what it would probably mean and before fleeing to Commentaries.) This, in all aspects of life, but prominently in the areas of Free Will, Activism, Homosexuality for men, and Redemption. * He hopes that his words will inspire and inform, and disturb the comfortable and comfort the disturbed. He aims to bring a fresh perspective rather than harp on the obvious and familiar. When he can, he loves to write encyclopedic overviews. He doesn't expect his readers to agree. Rather, original minds should be disputed. In short, his main political positions are among others: anti-Trumpism, for Zionism, Intersectionality, non-violence, anti those who abuse democratic liberties, anti the fake ME peace process, for original-Orthodoxy, pro-Science, pro-Free Will, anti-blaming-the-victim, and for down-to-earth, classical optimism, and happiness. Read his blog on how he attempts to bridge any tensions between those ideas or fields. * He is a fetal survivor of the pharmaceutical industry (, born in 1953 to his parents who were Dutch-Jewish Holocaust survivors who met in the largest concentration camp in the Netherlands, Westerbork. He grew up a humble listener. It took him decades to become a speaker too, and decades more to admit to being a genius. But his humility was his to keep. And so was his honesty. Bullies and con artists almost instantaneously envy and hate him. He hopes to bring new things and not just preach to the choir. * He holds a BA in medicine (University of Amsterdam) – is half a doctor. He practices Re-evaluation Co-counseling since 1977, is not an official teacher anymore, and became a friendly, powerful therapist. He became a social activist, became religious, made Aliyah, and raised three wonderful kids. Previously, for decades, he was known to the Jerusalem Post readers as a frequent letter writer. For a couple of years, he was active in hasbara to the Dutch-speaking public. He wrote an unpublished tome about Jewish Free Will. He's a strict vegan since 2008. He's an Orthodox Jew but not a rabbi. * His writing has been made possible by an allowance for second-generation Holocaust survivors from the Netherlands. It has been his dream since he was 38 to try to make a difference by teaching through writing. He had three times 9-out-of-10 for Dutch at his high school finals but is spending his days communicating in English and Hebrew - how ironic. G-d must have a fine sense of humor. In case you wonder - yes, he is a bit dyslectic. If you're a native English speaker and wonder why you should read from people whose English is only their second language, consider the advantage of having an original peek outside of your cultural bubble. * To send any personal reaction to him, scroll to the top of the blog post and click Contact Me. * His newest books you may find here:
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