Our brain does more than continuously broadcast thoughts, audio clues, feelings, and dreams as hints of what memories we are ready to clean up. It also sends us visual images constantly, if we would only pay attention.
I assume that you don’t know what I’m talking about. Something that is always there, visible, but ignored by all forever? Yes! What did I discover?
When we close our eyes and look into the dark, we see a stream of black-and-white images. (I don’t mean the negatives of what we just saw around us. Just get used to the dark and these aftereffects will disappear.) We don’t see a blanket gray of black. It may have geometric shapes, snapshots, or even moving pics from our early years. When we describe what we see, we immediately will have associations of memories, of feelings from then.
At pivotal moments, when our brain synapses fused from tension (so to speak), we seared into our retinas (our visual cortex), what we saw then. And, we can see these images in black and white whenever we close our eyes. Clear clues to go back there and unfreeze these desperate memories.
Grownups are not just larger than children and more knowledgeable. We also are often more rigid. And we may have learned a ton but we also forgot much. Our lost memory and flexibility can all be restored. We only need to talk about what comes up when we describe what we see in black and white when we close our eyes.
First, let’s talk about these are pictures from the time that we froze and got stuck. Then, let’s ask ourselves what we needed then, to not freeze and stay flexible. What piece of hope or information would have prevented us then from getting stuck then?
We still can supply this mental boost to get a new lease on mental life.
If only I would have known that thing would get better. That I’m lovable and will be well-loved later in life. If only someone would have held my hand and said, you’re not alone/you will not stay alone/there are many others like you/it’s not your fault. If only someone would have whispered into my ear that I don’t need to always feel the way the people around me feel–that I will have alternatives later in life. If only …
It’s a new simple therapy. In addition to another new longer therapy that I described before in two articles. These two therapies are based on much respect for our brain. It knows exactly what it is doing. Let’s profit from it.