Cathy Lawi

Moral injury, Elul, and the healing path

As we move toward the season of self-reflection in Tishri, the first month of the Jewish year, many of us are seeking ways to name and respond to the wounds carried in our bodies, hearts, and communities. 

The term moral injury has been used to describe the deep psychic wounds that arise when our values, ethics, and moral compass are shattered by experiences of war, violence, or betrayal. Unlike post-traumatic stress, which is often tied to fear and survival, moral injury is rooted in guilt, shame, and the unbearable burden of knowing that life has been ruptured in ways that feel irreparable.

In the current war in Israel, moral injury is not an abstract concept. A medic may live with guilt for triaging under fire—choosing whom to save and whom to let die. A veteran may replay the moment of ordering a risky maneuver that cost comrades their lives. A journalist may be haunted by witnessing atrocities without being able to intervene.

It is carried in the bodies, minds, and souls of soldiers, families, and entire communities. It is carried by those who have lost loved ones, those who live with terror, and those who feel guilt—whether through action, inaction, or simply through being part of a society immersed in violence and grief. This collective trauma weighs heavily on us as individuals and as a people.

Elul: A Time of Reflection and Forgiveness

We find ourselves now in the month of Elul on the Jewish calendar. Elul is traditionally a time of introspection, of looking back on the year and preparing for the Days of Awe—Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur. It is a time to seek forgiveness, from one another and from God, but also to turn inward and face the truths we might prefer to avoid. 

Elul asks us to pause, to grieve, and to recognize our shared humanity. It is not only about saying “I’m sorry” for what we did or failed to do, but about giving ourselves and others the sacred permission to heal

Grieving and Choosing Life

Grieving is not a weakness; it is a sacred act. We grieve for ourselves, for those we lost, and for the innocence that war has stolen from us. In our grief, we pray for forgiveness and hope. We grieve so that we may return to life—not in denial of suffering, but in defiance of despair. 

As we walk through Elul, may we embrace the courage to face moral injury with compassion. May tools of regulation help us to hold our pain without breaking. And may our prayers, individually and collectively, open a path forward toward forgiveness, healing, and the renewal of life. 

About the Author
Dr. Cathy Lawi is the CEO and founder of Emotionaid, an organization providing first response to emotional distress. With doctoral and post doctoral degrees in pharmaceutical and cancer research, Dr. Lawi is also a certified trauma therapist.
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