Moshe-Mordechai van Zuiden
Psychology, Medicine, Science, Politics, Oppression, Integrity, Philosophy, Jews

Dear Christians, stop saying you love Jews and start showing what Jews call love

I value Christian traditions and religions as I recognize them as attempts to improve individually and collectively. But I dislike it when, in their sheer numbers, Christians are not careful enough not to intimidate Jews. (Rather than blaming the victim, Jews, for being timid, try to stop the bullying.) Many Jews are way too timid. So forgive me for being extra frank again.

I see that many Christians try to be humble. But I don’t feel it when I try to teach them as a Jew but meet a wall of arrogance because they consider themselves more evolved than those primitive Jews (and pity us).

I admire that many Christians have tried to repent after the Holocaust and especially after the establishment of the State of Israel, seeing that — gasp — they were on the wrong side of history. But I so dislike it when they take no responsibility for 2000 years of persecution of Jews because “Christians who hated Jews weren’t Christians.” It’s a vile debating trick and a dishonest one at that. That’s not the way to correct historical wrongs.

Many Christians are warm friends of Jews and Israel and even more are lukewarm friends. But they must fight Christian anti-Semites and anti-Zionists — there are plenty — or their warmth would be less than sincere.


I looove fish said the man and then he ate one. Jews don’t call that love for fish. They call that love for one’s own stomach.

I looove this boy said the girl; I’m sure I can transform him into someone the way I want him to be. Jews don’t call that love. It lacks respect and recognition for the autonomy and right to self-determination. One should control oneself, not others.

I looove her, said the husband who had hit his wife to the police. Jews don’t call that love. It lacks empathy and exhibits self-centeredness incompatible with love. It doesn’t matter if you say or feel that you hate or love someone; you should first stop being violent. (It’s fine to feel your own hatred and envy as long as your actions are loving and sincere.)

I looove Jews said the Christian. I hope that my love will help them to open their eyes and upgrade their beliefs. Jews don’t call that love. It’s genocide — trying to erase a unique Nation. It matters less if you profess love or hatred; you should respect Jews as Jews.

Most Jews don’t seem to have a burning need to be loved by Gentiles. Liking us would be plenty.


It is so popular among many Christians to say that they love us, love Israel, hate Arabs, and none of it Jews need.

Stop hating Muslims or competing with them. Begin to cooperate with them to end anti-Semitism.

Please stop philo-Semitism. It is the flip side of anti-Semitism. “Jew lovers” believing in such stereotypes run the risk to flip into Jew-haters later.

Stop saying that you respect Jews while not lifting a finger to send Jews that converted to Christianity back to their roots. G^d will never forgive your passive agreement with replacement. It also shows that saying that you are against Replacement Theology is dishonest and untrue.

Stop allowing missionaries to target Jews who are weak or in a tough spot. It’s finishing Hitler’s work (eradicating the Jews), demeaning to Christianity (as if it is fit to be spread in sneaky ways), and should be below the dignity of Christians. (No rape victim must be forced to seek therapy or notify the police; which doesn’t mean that rape is OK. No converted Jew must be forced to recant; which doesn’t give a license to conversions.) All very learned converted Jews, whom I ever listened to, seem to me totally insincere and dishonest; they’re no credit to your creed.)

Stop using Jews and Israel to further your dreams for the world. Jews are not your dolls to play with or aliens to stare at.

Stop saying you like to exchange viewpoints with Jews. Jews are your G^d-given teachers and claiming equality is disrespectful.

Stop saying that you support and pray for Jews for their sake. You must bless Jews so that your life will be better. You must fight anti-Semitism because, as a Christian, you cannot tolerate hatred for Jews. You must learn from Jews because without that you cannot be a proper Christian.

Always remember that the Jewish Tradition welcomes all questions. It’s not a crime not to know; but it is a shame not to ask. Make our day: ask.

About the Author
The author is a fetal survivor of the pharmaceutical industry (DES - Diethylstilbestrol), born in 1953 to two Dutch survivors who met in the largest concentration camp in the Netherlands, Westerbork, and holds a BA in medicine (University of Amsterdam). He taught Re-evaluation Co-counseling, became a social activist, became religious, made Aliyah, and raised three wonderful kids. He wrote an unpublished tome about Jewish Free Will. He's a vegan for 8 years now. He's an Orthodox Jew but not a rabbi. * His most influential teachers (chronologically) are: his parents, Nico (natan) van Zuiden and Betty (beisye) Nieweg, Wim Kan, Mozart, Harvey Jackins, Marshal Rosenberg, Reb Shlomo Carlebach and lehavdiel bein chayim lechayim: Rabbi Dr. Natan Lopes Cardozo, Rav Zev Leff and Rav Meir Lubin. * Previously, for decades, he was known to the Jerusalem Post readers as a frequent letter writer. For a couple of years he wrote hasbara for the Dutch public. His fields of attention now are varied: Psychology (including Sexuality and Abuse), Medicine (including physical immortality), Science (statistics), Politics (Israel, the US and the Netherlands, Activism - more than leftwing or rightwing, he hopes to highlight Truth), Oppression and Liberation (intersectionally, for young people, the elderly, non-Whites, women, workers, Jews, GLBTQAI, foreigners and anyone else who's dehumanized or exploited), Integrity, Philosophy, Jews (Judaism, Zionism, Holocaust and Jewish Liberation), Ecology and Veganism. Sometimes he's misunderstood because he has such a wide vision that never fits any specialist's box. But that's exactly what many love about him. Many of his posts relate to affairs from the news or the Torah Portion of the Week or are new insights that suddenly befell him. * He hopes that his words will inspire and inform, reassure the doubters but make the self-assured doubt more. He strives to bring a fresh perspective rather than bore you with the obvious. He doesn't expect his readers to agree. Rather, original minds must be disputed. In short, his main political positions are: anti-Trumpism, for Zionism, Intersectionality, non-violence, democracy, anti the fake peace process, for original-Orthodoxy, Science, Free Will, anti blaming-the-victim and for down-to-earth optimism. Read his blog how he attempts to bridge any discrepancies. He admits sometimes exaggerating to make a point, which could have him come across as nasty, while in actuality, he's quit a lovely person to interact with. He holds - how Dutch - that a strong opinion doesn't imply intolerance of other views. * His writing has been made possible by an allowance for second generation Holocaust survivors from the Netherlands. It has been his dream since he was 38 to try to make a difference by teaching through writing. He had three times 9-out-of-10 for Dutch at his high school finals but is spending his days communicating in English and Hebrew - how ironic. G-d must have a fine sense of humor. In case you wonder - yes, he is a bit dyslectic. November 13, 2018, he published his 500st blog post with the ToI. * To send any personal reaction to him, scroll to the top of the blog post and click Contact Me. To see other blog posts by him, a second blog - under construction - can be found by clicking on the Website icon next to his picture.
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